Horrified......?

Question

I'm like the person for some reason everyone feels okay talking to. I guess I have lots of friends and get along with everyone, but don't try to make everyone get mad at someone or try to get someone embarrassed. So this girl texts me litterally 1 hour ago. She isn't my best friend but we hang out a little (also 14). She told me she made a huge mistake and she's pregnant (she took a home test). She's so worried about her parents, the baby, her health, etc. I'm trying to comfort her, but freaking out too. What can I tell her?

Answer 1

wow! back when i was younger we think pregnancy at 19 is very young. 14 is shockingly young. please tell her to tell her parents because there is health issues for herself and for the baby. and then there will be decision making about the future. her parents will be angry at first due to shock but they will accept reality and calm down after. good luck.

Answer 2

Wow ---------14?

Is there a planned parenthood where you live? I think that would be the best bet.........she needs to make an educated choice as to wether she's going to keep it (with her parents help if they give it) give it up for adoption (lots of people would love a baby) or terminate it...........14 is really young to have to deal with pregnancy - I had my first son at 18 turning 19 and I think that was too young!!

I'd watch JUNO. It may put life into perspective.........realize it's NOT the end of the world and you have many options - although her life will change regardless........

Answer 3

She needs to tell her parents ASAP.  For her health, the baby, and everything else.  You can't tell her much more, you don't have any experience.  It will be hard, but it is the only option.

Answer 4

the best thing for a 14 year old pregnant girl to do is to tell her parents!!!! don't go to another friend, or anybody else.... that can also be a huge mistake!! PARENTS FIRST!!! the parents of course aren't going to be very happy at first to know their daughter's pregnant, but they will be very supportive and will help her more than any friend ever could.....but you can be the best friend ever now if you help her tell her by telling her to tell her parents.......figure out some ways where you can help, and be the awesome person that you are and stand by her through out her pregnancy!!! i hope this helps!!! ----♥vb♥

Answer 5

defan tell parents , i was 16 when i got pregnant and was so scared to tell my mom but she was cool with it a lil disappointed but cool she was alot of support, but if she wants a healthy baby she needs to go to the ob as soon as possible her mom night b a lil upset but she csnt hid it for 9 months its better to get it done snd over with

Answer 6

Yikes.

Well, she needs to talk to her parents ASAP.  If she needs help, I recommend referring her to a school counselor, teacher, clergy or another trusted adult.

Bottom line, this girl needs help from adults.  You can be there and be supportive, but this is a bigger issue than young teens normally tackle.  

Please encourage her to seek out a trusted adult for support and help.

Answer 7

tell her parents, go to a doctor, but if anything happends she needs a fall back like gets kicked out hopefully not but if so she needs a place to stay, a jobto pay for the bills and the baby, and you as her friend to have her back and the guy should step up to and help her there is this show called the secert life of the american teenager on abcfamily i would tell you to tell her to watch it every tuseday and go on abcfamily.com and watch the first couple of epesodes it may help her!!!!

good luck to both of you!!!!