How 2 control this rage of mine??

Question

i am too quick tempered, i get angry even 4 the slightest of things...i grew up a hard life, u can call me a street kid...had so many fights in my school time & at home also that i ended up running away at the age of 8,my chilhhood & school life was totally ****** up to the core( i was always the butt of jokes 4 everyone & everythingcoz of my weight)...

my teen years was horrible,i was fat so this all led to me to become a bulimic & i became an angry gal)..i am lost now........

now days i am so foul mouthed, i use language that even men would avoid to use even if they are angry.....i niow have gotten headaches if im too tensed or angry.....i may have blood pressure coz my grandma,mum & sis have it...its a family problem....

i met my dad after 15 years, my entire family hates my dad...i am so pissed off with his d**n behaviour,etc.....i get this rage so often that it scares me alot,what do i do...i tried yoga,etc but nothing worked 4 me....plz help

Answer 1

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Because same here

Answer 2

Obviously you had a very hard life and you need to overcome whats happened in the past:)

Play Rugby League. It soothes tension and also gets alot of anger and frustration out:)

Good luck mate

Answer 3

You could repress your rage, but there is another way: use it. Turn that anger into fierce passion and give it a just target, in a good cause. *Righteous* fury still has a place in this world.

Answer 4

I would go with a different route in order to change that behaviour. Using foul language makes people perceive you as some banged up nutcase... think about this everytime right before you are about to curse. As for the temper problem, I do agree that some rage behaviour and anger problem may associate with genetics, however, there are ways to cool down your brain and reduce the chance of it happening. I am guessing you like hip hop, pop, rap, metal music? Well, while those music are really upbeat and may cheer you up they do have a tendency to make you go ballistic if you are already in a bad mood. Try listening to something smooth and slow, maybe classical instrument (piano, violin, chorus, i don't know, pick for yourself). These kind of music tend to have a calming effect on our mood and brain. As for your dad... if he absolutely drives you crazy then you should avoid meeting him in order for you to calm down. Another thing I would suggest is going to church or have someone guide you through the scriptures, this can be helpful as well. Best wishes to you!

Answer 5

Why do you think you have this? It could be just under your control, or you might need to see a doctor/ therapist. Maybe you have something medication can cure, maybe it's  just therapy related.  

Answer 6

When your mad just leave whoever your mad at and just relax and focous. Think about diffrent things. Anything. FInd something you like , a creative outlet. LIke songwritting, poetry reading... Anything that will help you relax.

Answer 7

You may not like this:

First thing.....you've got to forgive everyone everything.

A lot of the reason your angry is you're blaming your situation on others, your enmity has built up, and now you have no patience for anyone or anything.

Even if they've wronged you, forgive them, just that will change your entire disposition.

Luck

Answer 8

i have the same problem! what i do is when i fell that I'm getting angry for some reason i think of the most funnest think imaginable like...

my friend hannah we ate at pizza_hut and we had to go to the bathroom she got out before me and i herd a weird noise out side my door i opened it to find hannah jumping up and down waving her hand up up side down and i asked her what she was doing and she said the picture on th paper towel holder said to wave your hand in font of it like this i walked over and waved my hand under it and said that's what it means! lolz