How Can I Be Outgoing, Confident, & Talkative?

Question

I'm a freshman in high school now, and I'm always shy, and afraid to talk. I've always been like this. What should I do?

Thanks! =]

Answer 1

It's ok to be shy. I would  suggest that you never look down when you are walking in the school hallway, hold your head high. SMILE. When someone speaks to you, make sure you always have eye contact with them. I think once you meet more people in high school and make friends with some of them, your shyness will probably subside a bit.  

Answer 2

well if your in a class with students you dont know try and find something in common with one of them and start a conversation with one of them.

and if your in the halls and you pass someone you talk with but not alot wave or say hello to them. theyll most likely do the same

Answer 3

You can be my friend! Nah, I mean if you want to sure, but all you got to do is go and talk to people. So some people don't like you? Bid deal, I bet more people will like you. Just remember do you want to be the kid sitting with no friends. [like me :( ] or the person that anybody could feel could be thier friend.

Answer 4

just find sombody else dats shy or wait for someone to talk to u then start talking to them and yull start to grow

Answer 5

im naturally a very shy person too. but i tried this method and it really helped me. ok, think of someone that is bold, talkative, etc. someone  you wanna be like. PRETEND TO BE THAT PERSON for one day. go into places where it wont matter and people dont know you and try it. once you realize its ok to be bold and talk to people, it will come more naturally in other environments. try it. go up to someone you dont know and compliment them or try to start a conversation. whats the worst that could happen?

just be yourself. i spent my whole childhood life thinking about what other people thought about me, and you know what? you cant please everyone its impossible. so you might as well be yourselff, people love you more that way anyways.=) good luck girl!

Answer 6

In high school I was always quiet too.  Quiet people have strengths too.  Usually they are very observant and see things that more talkative people miss.  It is easy to compare yourself to others who seem more outgoing.  Just keep being friendly to people but dont put yourself down for being quiet.  It is just the way you were made.  Make a list of things you are good at and focus on those things too.  You will find yourself being more confident when you are happy to be you and not always trying to be someone else.

Answer 7

you really just got to try to be comfortable with yourself....i was the same way and now im in 11th grade and im the most outgoing talkative person out there...you have to realize that people will respect you more if you start talking to them first and acting interested in what they have to say....theres no way you can really be outgoing confident and talkative unless you just start being comfortable with your self ...i think youll deffinatly grow out of your shyness through high school... youll meet alot of friendly people who will make you feel better about your self.

Answer 8

show a sincere interest in other people. Aren't you curious about others/ People love to talk about themselves so be interested in what others are saying or doing and then ask questions.

Answer 9

I'm going to be a freshie this year too :D i have never been an outgoing person either, and sometimes it annoys me when my timid side keeps me from being more into a conversation. Sometimes it's just part of your personality, and it can't be changed. In that case, it may feel awkward to be outgoing, because it's just not who you are, which is perfectly okay. Now, if it's a confidence issue as to why you're shy, don't worry. Even with amazing friends I used to be a little low on confidence. But now, I'm much more confident in myself than ever before. If you're struggling with confidence, tell your friends. They'll be happy to encourage you. Or, you can find a fun hobby or talent that you love. As for being outgoing, have at it! I always found it helpful to find a way to talk about what you like and what you know about. Then it's easier for you to be talkative because you know what you're talking about. No one will blame you for trying to be in a conversation. good luck :D

Answer 10

im the same way.

I just smile at people

and say hi or something && normally they come and talk to me

it may seem like you dont know that many people in highschool but trust me you;ll get to know them.

you should just be yourself if your shy then be shy!

you know alot of guys like shy girls because theyre not loud and obnoxious!

GOOD LUCK!