How Can I Stop Being That "Just Friends" Guy?

Question

I don't think I'm bad looking.

In fact girls say I'm attractive, but just not their type.

I always end up the guy friend, the "emotional tampon"

Don't get me wrong, I feel blessed to have good friends.

But why can't one of them be more than "just friends"?

Answer 1

how old are you?

jw, cause a lot of high school/ early 20's girls are like that. they don't go for the "nice guys" or whatever...and they still have the "bad boy" image burned in their brains. I'm sure there's a girl out there for you who would love the "nice guy" you are.Cliche,I know, but just wait, and I'm sure the girl you're supposed to be with will show up soon.  

Answer 2

Hippie Jesus is right man

Answer 3

I've been there but if you are a generally nice guy which by the sounds of things you are then it takes time and confidence. From my experience you have to change your initial perceptions when meeting new girls, be friendly but keep and air of mystery, you have to be cheeky, witty, keep yourself exciting. Girls are more attracted to self-assured men. If you are too nice, running round and offering emotional support then you will be used for exactly that. If you want more you have to win the attraction side first, then you can use the other qualities you have that many other guys don't have to fulfil all of the other needs that girls have in relationships. hope this helps

Answer 4

I think SUBLIMINALLY you KNOW the answer to this.  And the answer IS:   YOU JUST NEED TO FIND A WOMAN WHO IS YOUR TYPE !!!!!!!!!!   There's someone for EVERYONE !  You just haven't met your SOMEONE. . . . . . yet !!!!!!!!  

Be patient !  "Rome wasn't built in a day!"   Neither is, "Happily ever after!"

Answer 5

If that's you in the pic, then look at it. Now think for a moment...Ahh! There ya go...now you got it! Silly Willy!

Answer 6

maybe youre hanging out with the wrong ladies,  is this a just friends before anything might ever happen or things happen and then they say it because then there could be a whole other reason you keep becoming just the friend. girls are picky, especially about some PRIVATE things...? just putting it out there..

Answer 7

Stop being so nice to all of them, if you like a girl tease her and c**p, don't be her slave and super nice to her, that's what gets you in the friend zone.

Answer 8

maybe the person haven't come yet,,..just wait,,..

hope i helped,,..

Answer 9

treat women like c**p  

Answer 10

Well if there's somebody you like, let them know exactly how you feel. To be honest, if you're not their type, then you need some patience and go find somebody who thinks you are their type. don't give up your friends just because they don't want a relationship with you. You may find that friends are worth more than girlfriends to you anyway. I just hope you don't find out the hard way.

Go out and find somebody new, and charm her!!

Answer 11

Once a woman has it in her head you're friend material, there you will be for all eternity.

You're obviously doing something wrong if you're making a bunch of female friends that you're really attracted to and then all of a sudden find yourself unable to date them.

This is most likely because you're coming off as too nice at the beginning. If you like a girl, tell her ASAP, don't try to be her friend and then try to start dating her. Its not fair and you can lose friends that way.

You need to take the initiative at the beginning of meeting them, flirt a little, ask them out casually. Don't just stand there and let them use you as a talking post about the other guys they're dating.