How Can I Tell Him That I'm g*y?

Question

The way me & this guy met is so weird. Two years ago I was involved in a really bad car accident on a freeway. This car hit me and I spinned out of control and was hit a few times by other car. I was knocked unconscious and my car caught on fire. This guy was nice enough to pull over run over to my burning car and pull me out of it. I didn't know who he was until I got the police report from the accident about 9 months ago and saw that he was also a witness of the car accident. I did some research online and found his address & phone number so I contacted him. When I contacted him he was so happy to hear from me and told me that he's been worrying about me and didn't know if I was dead or a live. Well we've been hanging out alot for about 7 months now and I love this guy so much. He knows every thing about me except for the fact that i'm g*y. I know he's open-minded because we've talked about g*y marriage & other issues that g*y people have to go through. What would be the best way to tell him that i'm g*y?

Answer 1

Tell him that I enjoy your friendship and if you don't want to be friends anymore I understand but I have to be honest with my friends and honest with myself, then tell him that you are homosexual.  

Answer 2

well if your going to tell him you need to be honest to some degree

if you know he dates girls then something like

well we talked about it, and because you shown to be so open about the subject, i descided to trust you and let you know i am g*y, i realise your not, and hope we can keep being friends, but i wanted you to know from me and not end up finding out from someone else.

if you by the odds are wrong and he either is bi or g*y, then he should tell you this as well as you just provided him the perfect opertunity to 'corect' you in your asumptions

and if he dont say anything to that degree, then respect he is not g*y, and keep your emotions to yourself, value the friendship and let it be with that. He cant help his gender prefrence anymore then you can, so there is no way you can turn him, and hence its pointless of ruening your friendship over talking about things that never can happen, and probably land you both in a spot where you aint comfortable being around eachother anymore due to the complexity of the situation.

Answer 3

you sound like such a nice guy and i really hope that this works out for you ,  let me as you a question has he ever mentioned he goes out with girls ?since you have known him for almost a year now i think it will be safe for you to do the following   well what i would do first is go out and get a bite to eat with him   yes have a few drinks , then take a walk and let him know your feeling for him i think he will ether go for it or he will tell you thank but I'm straight , but he may surprise you and feel the same way about you ! i wish you so much luck and i will say a prayer everything works out in your favor ! your friend sandy

Answer 4

Wow what a story, so first off, if you are gonna tell him make sure you tell him so he doesn't think that you have feelings for him, you know don't come on to him.  And most likely a lot of people and i hope this isn't offensive, have a gaydard, so he may already know or think you are g*y.  If this guy can save a human life without expecting anything in return then he can accept a friend being different than himself.  Hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 5

if you kiss a guy and you get an E-Rock-Tion

Answer 6

Honesty is the best policy, so you should just fess up and tell him how it is.

Answer 7

Perhaps he's already surmised that you're g*y.  If he is as open minded as you feel he is, after seven months of being around you, chances are, he knows.  The question is, how do you tell him you've developed feelings for him?  More importantly,  I would advise that you examine your feelings closely.  I believe their is a psychological term used for people in similar situations as yourself.  An example would be a person believing he/she is in love with the doctor who saved their life.  Before you do anything, do some soul searching and read up on the subject, what you find may cause you to see things differently.

edit:  I misunderstood your question.  If you feel it has any relevance in your friendship with him by all means, be straight forward and say it.  Do not be ashamed of who you are. You might be overly concerned about nothing.  Is it possible that you think he would feel differently about saving your life if he knew you were g*y?  If that is the case, I would not worry.  People who are willing to put their own well being in jeopardy to save a life could not be that shallow.

Answer 8

just sit him down and tell him that you're g*y

i don't think you should tell him that you love him just quite yet  

Answer 9

He probably knows. People aren't as dim as you think.

Answer 10

just tell him

Answer 11

i know its hard to come out to people even though im straight, i have wondered if im bi and the though of telling my parents is scary. i think he probably already knows and he will be fine with it if you tell him aslong as your not attracted to him or something like that. and if he cant except you because of your sexuality then hes not worth being your friend anyway. just tell him if you feel like you need to, but maybe you dont need to....no one knew dumbledore was g*y untill jk roaling said so.

Answer 12

You'll probably either gain a boyfriend.

or lose a friend.

Answer 13

Just tell him!if he can't leave you alone,then he must be g*y too.

Answer 14

look this guy has gaydar he definetly knows that you are g*y already if he is g*y thats just great

if hes straight  thats fine too. But Because  he could be g*y doesn't mean he has to have the feeling that you have, anymore than

in a straight relationship..i want marriage, my man doesn't..soooo

i want everyone to have these admirable qualities this guy showed, im speaking about the entire accident scene thing, he did what all of us should do, treat each other with kindness and concern, no matter what

thats what he did....you reached out to him....which was a very decent thing for you to do, to thank this guy...well if its been 7 whole months...so.he has to be well aware,and he is waiting for you to tell him that you are g*y...he may be and then again perhaps not

who cares, you have a very good friend in him...don't lose that,  remember one true

friend is worth 1,000 false one's................good luck, and listen

your feeling for him may very well be transference of gratitude, for his

being there for you..don't let that get in the way of a true lifetime

friendship thats being cultivated here..be happy and give thanks for being so Blessed.................good luck

O.K.

Answer 15

Write him an email and tell him everything. Let him know that you just wanted to get it out in the open and not to think that the only reason you are such good friends is because you love him. If he truley is your friend he will understand even if he is not g*y. He may need some time away or to think about what you said. This is why I think an email would be a good way to tell him. Good luck!