How Do I Convince My Mom To Either Homeschool me or transfer me?

Question

I hate my school. I live on a military base where I go to a middle school that forces me to wear certain clothes and act a certain way. I hate it! And everyday in enrichments all the people do is argue over religions! It makes me want to scream!There are Athiests, devil worshipers and Christians in my school. Im one of the few Christians. All you hear all through class is :

"Why dont you believe in God?"

"Why DO you believe in God?"

"Why do you worship Satan?"

"Youre gonna go to h**l!" and all kinds of other things and they argue back and forth.

I have maybe 2 friends and I get made fun of. Im so SICK of it! I have tried and tried to get my mom to go to college to be able to homeschool me. She says she dosent want to. So I ask her if I can transfer to California or New Jersey, she always says no because dads in the Army. Im becoming sick of it. I hate the Army,But thats not the point, how do I convince my mom to either homeschool me or transfer me to another school?

Answer 1

i completely get what you are talking about! i was homeschooled in 5th and 6th grade for more challenging work and now im being homeschooled and im in 8th grade because the public middle school really sucks!!! i used to live in this nice little town in the mountains(by yosemite) and almost everyone was either rich or upper middle class. so everyone wore nice clothes except for a few geeky kids! then i moved to this horrible farm town a few hours away! and it sucked! in 7th grade i had an awesome experience at my old school but this year it was horrible! here's what it was like!

*im not racist but their were way to many hispanic kids that hated white people!

*250 kids to 12500 kids!

*all remedial classes

*kids bought clothes at walmart and kmart!(i hate cheap stores!!!)

*guys were perv's! for real!!!

*constant putting down God or thinking im some crazy person for being a Christian(my dad's a pastor)

*and got constantly made fun of cause im white and wear expensive brands!

*overcrowded classes

*uneducated teachers

this is just an idea of how bad it was!

just calmly ask your mom, "mom, i really don't like the school im going to now and im not learning anything, is there any possibilty that you could homeschool me or transfer me to another school?(explain your reasonings"

upsides of private or charter schools

*more one on one time

*educated teachers

*more challenging classes

*able to spend money on students instead of what the school district makes them spend it on

downsides

*kids can be snotty

*privite schools are expensive

*you might have to wear a uniform

now homeschooling

*freedom to learn more about subjects you like

*no set school hours as long as you do 5 hours a day

*able to go shopping or take field trips during the week

*you can go at your own speed

*complete one on one time

these are just some of the awesome things about homeschooling!

there are no downsides!!!

hope this helps! :)

Answer 2

They actaully talk about God on a military base school?

Let me guess where this base is? In the south? lol....

Answer 3

HI there-

I'm sorry to hear your having a difficult time in school. Middle school gave me lots of those moments to show mercy to others. One thing I have come to fully understand is that you can't expect Christ-like behavior from those without Christ. Those are opportunites that God gives us to show His mercy and grace.Try to find comfort in knowing God has a purpose in all you're going through. And as painful as it is, God can use these struggles to make you stonger and wiser as you become an adult.

I've homeschooled my children for seven years and know it is a lot of work for the parent teacher. (BTW I don't have a degree, not all states require one to teach your own children.)Research your states homeschooling laws to find out what is required. Homeschooling may just be too much for your mom to take on. It also may seem too expensive to your parents. The parent has to pay for the materials needed to teach their own children in our state. I do agree that an environment that is stressful and distracting does nothing to further your education.

There may be another option for you. Some states have a distance learning public school. These are sometimes called virtual schools. You recieve your materials from the state and do most of your lessons via the internet. A lot of college classes are offered this way.This takes self discipline on the part of the student. You still have to do quality work and meet deadlines. You can also work ahead and finish school sooner. It still requires some parental involvement, but provides teacher support. The link to the program I'm aware of is www.k12.com This may be a good option because if your father is transfered it offers a continuity in your education.  These schools are also free because they are still public school. This may be something that would work for your family.

There will always be times in life when circumstances just aren't "fair" and all you can do is pray your way through them.

I tell my kids when they tell me "it's not fair": "Life isn't fair. If it was we'd all be hanging from a cross at Calvary eternally separated from God." I'm thankful that life isn't fair, and that I didn't have to pay the price for my own sin.( Even when I want things my way and God knows what is better for me.)

I pray that this encourages you.

Answer 4

I've been trying to get my madre to homeschool me too. but she says she has shift work so she cant. ask her if you can homeschool with a friend or neighbor(if you like your neighbors) or ask her to come down here to NM?! uhm...........yea the college thing is alot to ask for! cuz of money, and hours. Ask her if you could go to a boarding school that you've researched and like?

The Religion thing @ ur school is everywhere, Licianator. Mabey not at Private schools like Christian ones, cus they beliveve in only 1 God, and thats it. Ask her if you could go to a private school? or just ask her to go to a different school in your area, or in a different one.

thats all i can think of.

Answer 5

I think quite a few army kids are homeschooled.  

As for your mom going to college when she obviously does not want to, that is a different story.  It is asking quite a lot of her.

I don't know where you are and if that is a requirement in your area.   Also do you move a lot?   Where I live being army falls under Federal jurisdiction and may have different rules.

Please make sure about the legal requirements.  It seems pretty harsh to expect the mom to be college educated and to make her go to college. It's a big and daunting decision to homeschool all by itself

She may have a different outlook on the matter if that was not required.

I agree.  You sound old enough and you are certainly motivated enough to homeschool effectively.   I am sure that you would get a better education in less time with no emotional abuse. There are so many different materials that you could use that would not tax your mother. (she is probably also concerned about the extra work she might have to do.)

Homeschooling can be a pretty radical idea for some.  There are many misconceptions about it and your mom may have some.  Try to find out what they are and use this forum to dispute them.  Show your mom the answers.   It would be good if she could converse with other homeschooling moms.

I wish you well.  I sent some of my kids to public school and they were severely physically and emotionally abused and received a lousy education to boot. I thought I was doing the right thing.---And if any of them ever suggested homeschooling I would have refused.  That was just too weird. I eventually had more children and I am homeschooling them.  I have to live everyday with the knowledge that my older children were put through that awful experience for nothing.

Your mom probably has enough difficulties already and sees homeschooling as one more.   Try to go gently point by point.  Research.  Be calm and be respectful.   If all else fails tell her you are converting to Satanism because everybody else is and they have WAY more fun.

Answer 6

Show your question and have a long talk with her.  School is so hard for some students!  I am sorry you are having a hard time.  Good Luck; it will get better and you will look back on this time on your life and see how well you have done for yourself.

Answer 7

Colleges don't really look at middle school grades, so I would just coast it. Don't worry about the haters, cuz they just be hatin. Find something that makes you happy. Find a good book to read and ignore the annoying losers who just want to fight. Or just refuse to go to school. Nobody can really make you do anything you really don't want to do. Just walk out of the school building some day. Just WALK OUT. Then nobody will ever question that you absolutely HATE being there.

Answer 8

I feel so terrible for you.  I wish I was there to give you a big hug.  Actually, I really wish I was there to homeschool you myself!  I just about cried reading your posts - especially the second one.  You sound like someone who would thrive if you were homeschooled.  You seem very smart and I can tell by what you wrote that you would be disciplined in your studies and would do exceptionally well.  You could go so much further if you could do your studies at home - you could move at your own pace and maybe even graduate early.  Again, I'm so sorry - but I hope you are a strong person and will get through this through prayer.  I will certainly be praying for you and thinking about you.  With love and concern...