How Do I Tell Her How Sorry I Am ? ?

Question

Was A Complete Nasty b*****d To My Partner Of Two Years, Our s*x Life Was Non Existant, We Stopped Talking, Stopped Doing Things Together, I Stopped Washing And Was Dirty All The Time, We Never Took Kids Anywhere, Seems We Just Self Destructed, She Threw Me Out (Rightly So), But I Miss Her And My Family So Much, I Just Want To Go Home And Be With Them All Again, How Do I Make Up For The Hurt I've Caused ?

Answer 1

I think you should give your partner some time. Send her an email or message saying how sorry you are and how you've come to realise that they mean so much to you. Also tell her that she has a right to be angry and that you are willing to give her time but that you will always love and miss her. This will tell her that you're remourseful without putting her under pressure to take you back. Let her come to terms and forgive you on her own and in the meantime work on improving yourself and addressing the issues behind your lack of interest.

Answer 2

You need to talk to her to see if she even wants you in her life again.  She may not want any conact with you and then you'll have to respect that.  As for making it up, actions speak louder than words.  Prove it to her and your family you've changes by not being nasty, bathing regularly and the like.  You can't just do this for a week and expect her to welcome you back in open arms.  You need to slowly earn their respect again.

Answer 3

yes you should.

Answer 4

To do this you must first get yourself sorted ... you have obviously been very depressed so you should first work on that ... see your doctor ... get whatever help you can to get you feeling good about life.  Plus you can start making youresle feel good about you .... be scrupiously clean and shaven, dress in smart clean clothes and feel better about your image ... then you will have something to go back to her and offer her.  Simply being allowed back into the fold is totally useless unless you can show her a new image ... she has to have something to hold on to and admire and love as well .... if you can do all of this, perhaps you can then start to be a different man to her and keep it that way.  None of this will be easy ... it's up to you.  

Answer 5

Spend some time by yourself, first proving to yourself that you're not that person anymore.

It'll take more than words to make up for it, in her eyes - perhaps you never will.

Answer 6

You can never make up for the hurt you caused but you can show her you're going to change tell her what you just wrote here. When you go back home bring her, her favorite flower or something she loves. Let her know how sorry you are and that you want you guys to be a whole instead of two people. Show your kids how much of a Dad you'll be take them out do their favorite activities even though it may annoy you. Take her out to eat do things you did before just apologize and let her know from now on you'll be there.

Answer 7

I don't think you can make up. If you've treated her so badly in the past you will probably do the same again and if she has any sense she will move on and find another partner who will treat her better

Answer 8

You need to talk to her. Explain to her how you were feeling and how you are feeling now. Hopefully, she will take you back, but don't expect it. If you expect it, you might just get hurt all over again. Let her know how much you miss her and then show her that you can be better. She may want some time to think it over, so don't push it. Just talk to her and let her decide when she is read. Good luck.

Answer 9

its really strange how people all of the sudden want to start changing when the other has had enough. email her, send her a letter, or tell her up front how sorry you are. of course she may just think youre trying to get a place to stay.

Answer 10

Just start talking honey.  Tell her what you have told us and start to show that you mean it by your actions.

Expect it to take time - she wont believe you after one little I'm sorry.

If you really mean it you'll make the effort.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Hi,

Well why should she believe you now? It taken to now for you to realise how much you love her and want her and the children?

    What you need to do is stop feeling story for yourself and look at what you did and put it all right.

So get cleaned up and do things with the kids - take them out and spend time being a dad.

Remember though your relationship with your kids is SEPERATE from relationship with your partner - don't use the kids to get to her.

Give her time to come to terms with the changes in you and you may get a second chance.

Having said that if you were that nasty you probably won't be getting back with her.

You need to do a lot of making up and be patient too.

Answer 12

Tell her. That's the best thing you can do. Do it face to face. Don't hold back emotions. I wish you the best of luck.  

Answer 13

make ur self presentable.... get a dang job if u aint got 1  u hav to b there for ur kids atleast if u aint dere fo yo wife er  ex  er  former partner

Answer 14

SOMEONE ANSWERED YES YOU SHOULD...IM TOTALLY confused

you should what ?? what did i miss in your question ? i think from what i read here...you messed up...your admitting it..thats a good start

time will heal... time will prove you sincere, that is if you are..show her this question that u put out there because you want it to work between you....she will see that...andas my husband always says...Pat

don't tell me....SHOW me........good luck, and the yes i should person

please lay off the koolaid

Answer 15

Dont TELL her, SHOW her! gradually, and let her see you have changed.  Also see your Dr sounds like you were depressed.

Answer 16

write her a letter. tell her in person. let her know that is comes from the REAL you. not the 'jerk' SHE thinks you've become.  

Answer 17

Apologise, and mean it, and show her and your children that you mean, tell her you want to make a fresh start.

Answer 18

That's sweet. Show her what have you written here. It's the best.

Good luck sweet man. I'm g*y and I'd like to know a man like you! XD.

Greetings from NJ, USA!

Answer 19

well you could take them all to dinner and tell them how trully sorry you are and bye them all little meeningful gifts

Answer 20

you can only have your wife and children back in your life if you can prove to them you are really sorry you messed up...but this will not happen over night..it could take weeks, months, even year...something awful must have been going on in your life at that time...try explain to your wife and then take it from there...but it wont happen over night...remember actions speak louder than words.

Answer 21

it doesn't seem to me it was all your fault.  there are two people in a relationship.  it's good that you are taking responsibility for the things you know you did wrong but your partner should as well.  tell her you are sorry.  tell her the things you didn't like and vice versa and discuss how to fix them if she is willing of course.