How Do I help my husband cope with the Madonna/w***e complex?PLZ help!!! 10 points!?

Question

My husband and I had a very long serious talk last night. I had been wondering why, since I gave birth to our children(ages 1 & 2), our s*x life had dropped off dramatically. I did some studying on the Madonna/w***e complex last night, as one of the YA answerers had suggested this. When my husband got home from work last night, I never mentioned the MWC, I simply asked him "Sweety, did your mother spend alot of quality time with you as you grew up?" He responds "I went to her if I ever had a problem, but I always played outside by myself, I was off to myself all the time" Thats when I knew this is what I was dealing with.... The MWC. I explained to him what it was, and he almost started crying(yea, it's okay for a man to cry). Now that we know what the problem is, how do I help my husband get over this "Complex" Thanks for replies!

I would never ever leave my husband over s*x, I know he is not cheating because he is always at home or either at work. I want to help him get through this but dont know how

Answer 1

I know that a lot of people may get angry w/ me for saying this, but I'll say it anyway, b/c it will lead to a point.  More often than not -and even though most parents will deny it like crazy or not even see it, having children causes relationships to fizzle to an extent -whether slightly or intensely-, versus childless relationships.  Most parents will not see or admit that stress on a relationship can be brought on in any way by having children, and they will blame other sources (finances, careers, economy, etc.) until they are blue in the face.  The children themselves aren't necessarily at fault, but indirectly, having them causes more stress on a relationship in the long run than not having them.  This is b/c financial priorities change, adults are forced to put their own personal needs and wants aside and put the kids first, fathers feel as though they have to work harder and longer, mothers shift their attentions away from their husbands to their children, the children have to be taken into consideration before every little thing -such as whether or not mom and dad can do something that mom and dad would enjoy-, parents are no longer at liberty to come, go, and do as they please, and of course, the MWC tends to rear its ugly head after children come along.

All of that being said -and again, I am not trying to deliberately offend people who want or have kids but those truths cannot be denied- maybe you and your husband should take little vacations every now and then WITHOUT the kids.  Leave them w/ a grand parent and get out of town for like, a weekend or so.  Stay in a honeymoon suite, drink champagne together in a jacuzzi bathtub and bathe each other, go for horse-drawn carriage rides at night, make up little games like when you are in the hotel room -no clothes are allowed.  Try having a weekend to yourselves every other month or so, and maybe some time w/out the kids being in plain eyesight or earshot will remind him that you are not just a mother to his kids and that w/ or w/out children, you are still his s**y wife who enjoys his attention and loves being w/ him just as much as you did before you became his "Madonna".  Leave the topics of work, and the kids at home.  

Yes, the children are important, but it still just as important that you guys are happy and are getting what you need from the other to maintain marital happiness.

Answer 2

did your husband watch either or both of the births?  that ruins s*x for a lot of men, they see your naughty bits now as more of something that is functional vs. a play area.

Answer 3

I would recommend some professional counseling. This may be more than you can fix on your own. I wish you the best.

Answer 4

i would try go sleep naked and play with his p***s when he is sleeping...then just give him a joy ride

Answer 5

what is the madonna w***e complex? you should be more clear on that and just be with him and support him with whatever he needs?