How Do You Face Children Who've Heard You Having Passionate s*x?

Question

My husband has children from a previous relationship whom we now raise together as our own, they are our boys 16 and 17 years old.

We've been married for three years now and have always been a very passionate couple-everyone always comments on that. I don't mind kissing my husband or showing affection to him in front of our boys, but, I've always had a problem with them hearing us make love.

When they were younger, I guess I didn't mind it so much, but now that they're older it makes me a little uncomfortable, especially when I see them the next morning, I always wonder if they heard us.

Anyway long story short - they definately heard us three nights ago because my oldest son asked me in front of his brother (and of course after his dad left the kitchen)

"so mom ... sounds like you had fun last night" - then he and his brother started laughing - so did I but, I didn't answer him. I just grabbed him and playfully threw a dish towel at him.

Ever had this happen to you? How did you handle it?

Answer 1

well!  you must be a lucky lady.

they are 16 and 17?  aren't they usually out on the weekends having fun with friends?  use that opportunity to do the nasty!

Answer 2

lol thats funny.  

Answer 3

I have never had this happen to me.. but I have walked in on my parents. My advice is to just go right on ahead. Having s*x with your husband is perfectly normal and I think its great you guys are still in love. I wouldn't worry about the boys hearing you, because its your house.. and maybe you don't have anywhere else to go.

I might suggest finding alternative places while the boys are home.

Maybe the shower?

Where it would be harder to hear.. and much more romantic.. might I add?

lol

Good Luck (:

and Happy s*x to you (:

Answer 4

I don't think you need to say anything more about it.  I may have been his way of letting you guys know that they can hear you.  

Answer 5

Sounds like they were just letting you know they knew and you handled it well.

Answer 6

Geez, STFU, "Mom"!

Answer 7

This is a funny and cute story.  Never happened to me.  But what can you do?  I think you handled it in the right way.  Basically it's not so bad...they are older now and probably not virgins themselves.  What you're showing them (not literally) is a wonderfully healthy marriage in all aspects.  They see you and your husband being affectionate, they see you and your husband working things out, raising them, handling problems and they know you two are still intimate.  I don't think you need to worry so much about it.  Congrats on your wonderful, solid family.

Answer 8

thats pretty much the best way to handle it. as uncomfortable as it might feel, theyre older kids, and all this isnt news to them. at all, in fact. it seems awkward, but remember when you were that age? you knew it all by then..lol. so its fine. just laugh and change the subject.  

Answer 9

They are from your husband's previous relationship?  Maybe they think you're hot and want to flirt with a MILF?

Answer 10

Oh that's easy - you be cool and tell them "Yep your ole Mom & Dad enjoy s*x too just like anyone else - it's one of those PERKS of marriage!"  we'll try & tone it down a little next time!  then you smile and leave it at that.  I think it's good that they know this is a normal part of a healthy happy marriage - don't you?  Certainly discretion is good - but if they happen to hear something sometimes - I say no sweat!

Atleast they are old enough to understand what they hear so you have nothing to be embarrassed about.  When they were littler it might have terrified them!

Answer 11

Lol. Wow. This never happened to me, but im sure it will a couple of years from now. Maybe you guys should wait until they are asleep to do that...maybe around 3am! I know its a stretch... :) OR wait until they are at school or something....OR a weekend getway... :) There is always options. Get creative!

Answer 12

Sounds like a good problem to have. Kids grow up fast and your boys know darn well what was going on. Switch places with them, would you want to hear your mom having a screaming o****m? Probably not. Move yourselves or them to another room, go somewhere else or scream into a pillow. Go to a motel once in a while to let your ya yas out. God bless ya!

Answer 13

That is so funny!  I have have teenages daughters 13, 16.  I am always nervous they will hear too.  They haven't said anything yet.  I would be so embarrassed though.  Sounds like you have a great relationship with your boys!

Answer 14

this is never happened with me because i have daughter and she is 23 month old  so don't know yet but if its happened with me it will make me fell embarrassed for sure

Answer 15

They know that when there married your supposed to have s*x and it probally is healthy for them to see a loving and affectionate relationship. Yeah that was a little akward at the breakfast table but you made a joke out of it so I think that you handled it well. Just try to be a little quiter. But dont worry, you dont have to explain anything to them. They get there old enough to know what your doing. Just make an appropreiate joke about it.