How Do you get yourself out of Shyness?

Question

Yes I really want to know how you get yourself not shy no more,

Because i really so bad! want to be an actress, but i know you cant be shy to do that so, can anyone give me any tips to calm myself down for a audition so i can get the part

Answer 1

I picture myself naked... because I look d**n good naked!

:)

Answer 2

You have to work hard at it. I did. You must get out of your comfort zone. When you meet new people, make conversation, smile and dont just stand there and look awkward. Try. And be confident in yourself. Dont care what others think.

Answer 3

first off...breathe! you're only 12! sometimes shyness is a conditions you can outgrow. with maturity and experience, you can garner the confidence you seek.

i've been acting since i was 8, well at least that's when i first remember it myself, and the reason i started was i LOVED becoming someone else. i never minded that i was shy because i knew when i was in my own world, i wasn't and could become someone who wasn't. once i hit puberty/highschool i wanted to get away from myself (who doesn't in highschool) so acting was a great escape. but once i went to college and started learning techniques for acting, i realzed (and professors told me as well) that you HAVE to put yourself out there. if nothing else, to learn how to communicate and tell your story better. you have to communicate with your audience, true, but also the director, your fellow actors, and techs, which include props, lights, costume, stage manager, house manager....there are a ton of people. now, i can pretty  much jump into any situation and ground myself enough where i can put myself out there faster. it also becomes a situation where you can see someone you're trying to get to know better or just communicate with period is obviously uncomfortable...now with my powers, i worry about making them relaxed. it also helped me working with children; i guess you could try that. they have this ability to make you work sooooooo hard because if you're not confident and know what's going on, they'll eat you alive...i've seen it...it ain't pretty.

now being shy and nervous are two different things...they can revolved around each other but still...two totally different mind realms. nerves is something that you'll never get rid off, nor do i think you necessarily should. they get the heart rate up, your adrenaline kicks in, and you become more aware of what you're doing which works well for performing. you just need to learn how to work WITH your nerves instead of against them. i think this is one of the biggest mistakes beg actors make; they try to get rid of them. you're just not going to be able to accomplish this. learn to work with them. i'm a 30 yr old actress and i've been working professionally since '99 and i still get nervous!!!

the shy thing you can overcome. lots of people are shy. don't beat yourself up over it. just be patient with yourself. focus on gettting to know other people instead of what they may or may not think about you. get out of your own head. when introduced to someone, make direct eye contact and stick the ole hand out. ask probing questions. and keep breathing!!!

Answer 4

Dont be scared to say whatever you want whenever you want. State your opnion, push yourself to be more out there

Maybe you watch some Dr. Steve-o.

Answer 5

you have to find you confidence, when you do that, you realize people are all going through what you are and they are just as scared or shy as you, but they realize what i just siad, this will help you just do it.

Answer 6

just telling about yourself, I'm not shy at all, I just wanna express myself, it just a goddamn moment, but when it's gone, you think its quite attractive

Answer 7

Get a job doing something where u constantly interact with people in-person. Like a retail job that pushes up-selling. Then u'll learn how to be charming and sell yourself.

Answer 8

Wear the most hideous clothes you can think of then walk through the mall.

(be comfortable with yourself and stop caring what people think)

Answer 9

An actress? Far down the road...

Anyway, just don't think about it. In a way, "launch" yourself into doing something. Eventually it'll become second nature.

Answer 10

See, the highest obstacle you'll have is yourself. The true answer lies within you. As long as you try to avoid being exposed, you'll be shy. I can say that for my personal experience. Instead of practicing, I simply decided to isolate myself, and it was really hard to change that again. You don't have to be scared, you have to be happy with yourself, with your intelligence, your beauty. The first step for you to leave this condition is actually to love yourself. As long as you love yourself, you won't care to what other people think or say about you, because you'll know it's not true.

Believe in yourself, don't lose opportunities because of your shyness, and don't be afraid of speaking in public. It'll take a while, it needs practicing, but I'm sure that if you do this, you'll improve a lot. You still have a lot of time, use it wisely.

Answer 11

get hyper and act totally stupid .... then when it comes time totally chill out and blow everyone away.. and if you get nervouse they dont like you ... remember people are not all paying attention to you... even if they are looking at you... i mean have full conversations with people and i dont even know whats going on!

Answer 12

The best way to overcome shyness is to dress well and look neat.Also, do not care about what people think of you.Just feel cool and i promise you, you will gain respect and overcome shyness.

Answer 13

just remember when your going for a tryout or when your around people...

"you only live once, why regret this moment years from now."

Answer 14

Allyssa, there are actually many shy actors, many shy GOOD actors.  And even the not shy ones get very anxious about auditions.  That's normal.  From what I've read, it eventually gets easier after you do it over and over.  But don't let shyness stop you from being an actor!

Answer 15

what helped me overcome my shyness are goals

i said to myself. i  really want to be frieends with that guy. or i really need to get this job.. or i really need to be this and that so i can be an actress because this is my lifelong dream and i cannot fail

never never

and repeat that over and over..

though it might be scary at first to open ur mouth to talk to people.... think of it this way.. u are in your room listening to a song... u like this song and started singing and u delivered this great performance and feel an invisible audience clap and cheer u on...

if u imagine that in an audition, you could act exactly how you would and have real talent and hard work show

good luck

Answer 16

I'm shy to, but I'm getting better. what i do is i think to myself "I've only got one life, why go through it unheard!" it is my motivation.

Answer 17

run around naked for a while..it helps!!

Answer 18

Okay, everytime I go on stage I get really nervous and I've NEVER been shy so I don't know if it's the same feeling (well auditions deal with nervousness) but here are a few tips:

1. Even if you are so nervous you feel like you are gonna pee your pants you have to go out there with a smile on your face and great posture. If the directors see your "confidence" they will immediately like you. If you can express yourself through acting you won't end up being shy unless you are playing a shy character.

2. Just remember you aren't yourself when you play a character. You're not that shy/nervous person anymore you're someone totally different so be that person for as long as required and then go back to who you are.

3. Just picture yourself being a three year old again and visiting family. Remember, how you were probably shy and quiet but then you warmed up to everyone and became loud. Well, auditioning for directors and going on stage is like warming up to family.

Answer 19

i was more shy than now that is because i have started working in a TV as editor

Answer 20

well if I were you I would at least try to find a friend that you trust and that your not shy around so that way when you act in front of people or an audience or something you would just picture your friend that you trust the whole time to get your mind off of it and if you don't have a friend like that then try to do it with older siblings if you have any and if you do then do the same as in picture them the whole time to get your mind off the shyness

Answer 21

run around naked at school and hang ur undys on the flag

Answer 22

well, you either have it or you dont;

cheers!

Answer 23

Get a job where your work with the public.  Trust me, you'll begin looking at people differently and your shyness will lessen or disappear.

Answer 24

You do something so embarrassing that you won't be shy of anything else you do in life.

Answer 25

get drunk and whip the panties off