How Does a 30-Year-Old Make Friends?!!?

Question

I have been living in this smaller city for over a year. I have a new fantastic job starting up, and love the area (safe, cost of living, etc).

However, I have not made any friends. I spend pretty much every weekend at home (which I hate). I love going out, having some drinks, but have not done that in about 6 months!

I don't know what to do. The biggest obstacle is that I'm 30 years old. People in my age group around this town already have about two kids, mortgages, and everything and they don't have time to spend with a childless person ( I don't want kids).

I've tried all the groups, activities around town, but I run into the same problem with people my age....they are all married with kids and just have too much to do. Plus they just don't seem interested in me since I don't have an interest in having children. In fact, some women my age can be downright nasty to me because I choose to remain childless and berate me for not having any.

If this were a bigger city, I can find other people, but this is a smaller town and am stuck.

I'm very excited about my new job, but am wondering if I'm still friendless if I should just move to another city?

What advice do you have for a 30-year-old trying to make new friends. Please, serious responses only. This is tougher than high school!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I feel the same way.  The friend I usually hang out with is 40 and divorced.  I spend so much time at work, but it's depressing when I get home.  Maybe there are other teachers around who want someone to hang out with.

Answer 3

When you start your new job you'll get to know lots of people I'm sure.  I just started a new job 6 months ago and my workmates were desperate to get a night out (to sus me out I think lol).  I'm 24, but our ages range between 17 and late 40's, but they all enjoy socialising.  Make an effort to get to know work colleagues etc.  Perhaps you could join a gym/fitness class, or do something you enjoy, and you're bound to meet people.

This might seem old fashioned, but perhaps go and introduce yourself to your neighbours, and invite them to drop in to yours for a coffee.

Answer 4

it doesnt matter where in the world you are, the tough part is finding true and life long lasting friendship no matter where you are/stage in your life.

start off from your neighbours and go from there. thats a small way to break the ice; i know what you mean its harder to relate for a single woman to be friends with married women. Most of them are busy with their own lives tending to their husbands/children's needs but i'm sure some of them are feeling lonely as well without a girlfriend to talk too.

volunteer in your local area - i find these one of the best places to meet like-minded folks for meaningful relationships. they're always there to make a difference

church unless you are a spiritual person. you can attend their bible study or young adult group.

hobbies/special interests like hiking, photography club

school take up a new course like cooking or sewing class

professional designation like toastmasters club

good luck and anyways, you have heard of the old saying - dont try too look hard for pontential true friends or lovers, they'll come to you when you at least expect it. dont search - they'll find you in due time...

Answer 5

myspace add random people