How I can reunify with my daughter?

Question

Four years ago I had giving up my parental rights of my daughter to her father. Back then I was a alcoholic junkie and I thought that giving the baby to the father was the best thing to do. Anyway since then I am clean and with a very good job and I want to re-unite with my daughter but her father doesn’t even allow me to see her…Does any one of you know what I can do if not to take my daughter back To be able to visit her any now and then?

Answer 1

Glad you're clean and sober!  That's great.  

Now, if you legally gave away your parental rights, this means you are no longer legally her mother, and there's little you can do under the law.

If, however, what you did was simply give him custody, then you can go to court and seek visitation, as she is still legally your daughter.  

Answer 2

Congratulations, on kicking your addiction.

Once you have surrendered your rights, if your rights were surrendered, legally and you were not pressured, there is nothing legally that you can do.

Try talking to her father, proving to him that you are clean and sober and hopefully he will reconsider. Give him time, you don't want to alienate him by being too pushy and hope, that he has a change of heart.

Answer 3

You may or may not be able to sue for reinstatement of limited parental rights and/or for visitation since the child has not been adopted. You will need the advice of an attorney...many will consult with your for free to see if there are any laws or precedent in your state to help you do so.

Answer 4

good for you that your clean

if i was your daughter i would probably not want to see you again..depending how old

but if somehow you can talk to her and her father and just explain why you gave up the rights to see her cause you wanted her to have a better life and maybe they might give you a chance

Answer 5

i'm pretty sure once you sign over your parental rights that's it.  the only thing you can do is try to regain the father's trust that you will be moving forward and not back again.  it may take some time, but getting to see your daughter will be worth it.  he is just trying to look out for the physical and mental well being for the child.  try letters or emails first, then work your way from there.  good luck!

Answer 6

Since you gave up your rights to your daughter 4 years ago, you have NO rights now.  The father does not have to let you see your daughter at all (Kudos to him for stepping up and being responsible).  

Also, your daughter might not want to see you at all...you abandoned her.  And it is not fair to force your wants on her.

My advice, stay clean and sober and make sure you can be a "good" parent when and if your daughter comes looking for you when she is older.  

Answer 7

Once parental rights are taken away, or signed over, there is no way to get back visitation...legally, you are no longer her mother.

If you have talked to him and he refuses to let you see her, I don't know what else you can do.

If I was in his situation and saw you were clean and had it together, I would probably let you see her, but not every one is like that.

Answer 8

Talk to an attorney and see what they can do to help you get visitation and possibly joint custody.  

Your beating alcoholism and drug addiction, good for you.

You husband shouldn't be judging you for it, its not his place and it doesn't help anyone but himself.   I'm sure your little girl is longing to see you as well as needing you despite the bitterness of what people think about your disease, good luck and do whatever it takes to stay sober.