Let say that you was with someone for 3 years and decided to separated to work on your self and your kids. You tell the other person that they need to do the same. The kids did not get along well. 5 boys what you expect. This person blames you for many things that you did not do in the relationship, like emotional support or communicate like you should. We had our issues. The kids played a big part of the split up. My kids and her did not get along. She was over protective of hers. I understand that. I still tried to treat them like my on. I felt it was my falt, but now I realized that I did more for them then she claims. I supported us all while she did school. She quite that since she left. She wanted marriage and I was scared. I really want to marry her and expressed this to her and she feels it is not a good time for us to live together. I agree. We both are going to church and I started counciling for me and the boys. She claims to do the same. We will see. She said it was wrong to live together and not be married. I agree.
Well she is 6 hours from us and I just don't see how it is going to work. She say that it is nothing wrong with putting our relationship on hold until we get ourself and our kids straight. I agree, but not at 6 hour away. I feel that we need to be closer in order to work on this together until we feel it is time to go to the next step (marriage and move back together). She don't see it that way.
We she left alot of stuff her and she got the van that I bought for us. She got mad, cause i said I want it back. Is that wron?. I feel that she is taking advantage of me. She left with no home and no job with her 3 boys, left alot of stuff here. Only tooh clothes and don't know when she can come back to get some more stuff.. I asked her if she was talking to other guys on line and she said no. No guys at all, she do talk to a guy friend that I don't feel two good about. I told her that it was not fair to me is she was. She said no man and is not ready to be in a realationship right now. She said she don't know what the future will bring.
Well I kind of found out the day before today that she was talking to two guys online. Don't know whats the deal, this is why I asked to see if she would lie. Well she did. It might be nothing going on, but I should know. I would not lie to her. She got mad, cause i asked. So what you think? Is she looking for someone and then dump me for good or should I take it lightly. I know for a fact that she is talking to other men. I don't know what the intention to it. Half of me feel like giving her the time and half on me wants to get my van back give her stuff and be done. Alot of people now tell me that they felt that she was taking advantage of me when we lived together. What should I do?
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