How Long Should I Keep Him Inside During The Party?

Question

At 2:30PM, in 25 minutes, we are having an End of Summer / Labor Day Party. Today, Aidan has been very disobedient. He is never like this. I told him if he did not stop, he would not be allowed to go down to the party. He didn't listen and continued to disobey. I said, 'Fine - you can stay up here when the party starts and not be allowed to play with your friends.'

My questions are:

1. Where should I keep him? If he stays in his room or the house, he will play with toys or go walk around. Should I sit him in a chair where I can see him and make sure he doesn't leave?

2. How long should I keep him from joining the party? I won't do it the whole party, because there will be people at our house until late at night. He'll have to go to bed before the guests all leave, but I am not going to keep him there all night? Should I make him sit there an hour? Less? More?

Answer 1

u should not be having parties. if you have a toddler. take the time that you were going to use to get drunk and hook up with guys and spend it with your kid. of course he is disobedient. he has you for a mother. you care more about getting loaded and getting you v****a pounded than about raising a child.   your child needs you

Answer 2

Put him to work.  Make him help out with the preparations and the clean up.  

Answer 3

Who cares if he plays with his toys? He has to stay upstairs--you didn't say he couldn't play with toys. I'd keep him upstairs in his room and tell him he can play with his toys, but that he cannot come to the party. If you told him that he couldn't come to the party, then you can't go back on your word and make him stay up the entire night and put him to bed. If you didn't specify a time, keep him up there for a half an hour or an hour depending on how old he is.  

Answer 4

If you let him play, I would make it an hour.  If he does not get to play, I would make it a half hour.  Having him in a chair where you can see him is a good idea, also surprise checks on him to see what he is doing, maybe even by a sibling just walking by.  It really depends on his age too, an older child (8-10+) sitting for longer may be needed.  But a 5-7 yr old a half hour should be good.  You could even have him sitting so he can see the party, and see how much fun his friends are having, and he can't have fun.  Don't tell him he will only sit for part of it, tell him after the time is up that since he sat so well you will, this one time only, allow him to go join the party.  So, half hour to 45 minutes, in a chair where you can see him, no playing.  Maybe even have him write about what he did wrong, why he should do it, and how it will change while he is sitting, and maybe apologies to the people his behavior has affected.

J S--- have you ever heard of a family party/picnic????  She is probably not getting drunk, she most likely has a husband so she will not be hooking up with anyone, and did she say he is a toddler, maybe he is a school-aged kid?   Tons of people have parties with out getting drunk or hooking up with people-----did you not read that his friends will be there-a big hint to "family party".  Just b/c you don't have fun or family parties, doesn't means they don't exist.  You need a life, why do u need to post such inappropriate and stupid stuff?

Answer 5

how old is your child.  

Answer 6

all depends on how old Aidan is... your discipline strategy depends on your child's age.. whatever you decide to do, it needs to be age appropriate for it to work..