How NOT to be rude to my Husbands Best Friends family?? Help?

Question

My hubby and I live in a nice starter home. We don't have top end stuff but we keep our house clean and inviting..Here is my problem..My Husbands Best Friend and his family are the dirtiest people you will ever meet. All there 9 cats have fleas, there is cat f***s on the floor and there teenage daughter smells all the time and takes a shower once a week. You walk into there house are you are overwhelmed with smoke and cat urine... We live 30 miles away but when they visit they bring fleas into our house and our house smells like BO when they leave....I don't want them over, there nice people but the stench is horrible. They both work live in a decent house and nice neighborhood but are soo dirty..Best advice?

Answer 1

You're approaching this in an extremely unflattering manner. If I or my husband had ANY friends or family that came over and left a stench behind, I'd break out the Febreeze or sprinkle some Carpet Fresh down and vacuum. Light a candle, do whatever it takes to get rid of the odor but I wouldn't speak so lowly of my husband's friend or his family. Seriously, you need to think how you're complaining over something so petty. You've probably got worse problems than that. If it honestly bothers you, speak with your husband about it but without coming off as insensitive to the whole situation. His best friend is just that for a reason, so be careful how you approach him. Good luck :)

Answer 2

I value cleanliness in my home too. I'm afraid I would have to put my foot down about the husband's best friend and say No to these people coming over. Perhaps it's time to trade up (friend wise). Hope this helps. Good luck on your wedding. ♥ ∞

Answer 3

I have one question for you. Do you think they really are not aware of the fact that they house stink? There tolerance level is low.

I had a good friend who had dogs like that in the house. She could sit on the computer and smell that stuff and nothing bothered her.

When she would come to my house her 8yr old daughter (doing #2) wearing pampers and it wasn't like she was going to change her.

Sometimes my friend would stink and she left a powerful scent in my brand new cloth computer chair.

I started making myself totally unavailable- why should I be the only person in the world suffering like this. No one else is going to come to her house and no one else is going to have that at there house. I pay good money for my possessions and I am not going to allow someone to destroy them. Flees I can't stand.

Answer 4

Confront your husband. Since this is your husbands best friend, you need to start with him and tell him "Look, you know I love your friends and all, but he really needs to take a bath before they come over."

Its one of those wife and husband things. You need to lay it down, not like the law mind you, but lay it down and see how he works it. If he doesn't talk with his friend, well then next next step would be to confront the friend.

America would be such a better place if people weren't afraid to say what they mean.

Good Luck

Answer 5

your questions make you sound really b!tchy

Answer 6

chill with the questions. geez.

Answer 7

ask  them  why