How Should I Do My Reception?

Question

Ok, My Fiance' and I have to do a "quick" wedding, Because my daughters father and I have shared parenting and him and I cannot live in the same house unless we are married, We origionally planned to get married June 20th, 2009, But we're wanting to move into a house sooner than that, How should we have the reception? Should we just have one at a park or rent a hall? And just have our immediate family at the justice of peace? Im new to this stuff so Im not really sure whats best to do. Thank you everyone!

Answer 1

Well there really is no right answer to you question as it really depends on several factors such as budget, location, taste, etc.

Why don't you start with a few simple questions?

1. What is your budget?

2. How many people do you want to invite?

3. Where would you like the ceremony to be held?

Here are some answers to your questions;

If you hold it at a park, you will have to take a few things into consideration such as park event permits, tenting, chairs, power, weather, transportation, etc. Holding it in a hall will likely be easier for a quick wedding, but you may want some decorations. Check out your local event planning and decor companies to see what they have available to help you.

If you want a simple wedding, my suggestion would be to find a unique venue that requires very little decor, and that serves great food. You won't have to do much other than to hire a band or DJ, and someone to perform the ceremony. Golf courses work great for this as you can always perform the ceremony outside and then move inside for the reception.

Other things that I have seen is people tenting their back yard and having both ceremony and reception at their house. This depends on whether or not you have sufficient space and a nice back yard. You will also have to think about permits and noise by-laws.

If you are having trouble, consider hiring a local event planner to help you put it together as they know all of the venues and suppliers in town and can put something together much quicker than if you tried yourself.

Hope this helps!

Good luck with your wedding!

Answer 2

What we did was have a small ceremony with family then had a big reception at a friends house (or a park would be great) and invited all our friends. You can show a video from the ceremony and have your first dances at the reception.

Answer 3

my husband and i needed to be married but couldn't afford the wedding we wanted so we got married at the courthouse for legal purposes, and are planning a nice wedding for 2011...you could do the same?

Answer 4

Obviously you have some issues with your divorce decree in that you cannot have an unrelated male living in the same house with you and your child.  So, in the interests of circumventing the judgment, I think the two of you should go to the courthouse and get married there with just a couple of people if you want (like your daughter and maybe your parents) and then plan for your reception in June.  Don't rush and throw a reception together now...it won't be what you want anyways.  So take your time and plan your reception for when you want it, and go ahead and get married now such that you can all begin living together.

Plus you'll have more money for the wedding if the two of you are living in the same place now since you'll be saving on rent/mortgages!

Good luck!

P.S.  If you have an amicable relationship with your ex, you could ask him if he would agree to allow you to reside with your fiance until the wedding and just have an agreed order entered to that effect.