How Should I handle this Bully At Work?? See story.............?

Question

I am a host/busboy (20)hes waiter(20).... Hes an *** to me only .Like disrespectful comments that get to me...FOR EXAMPLE....He nitpicks everything i do and teases everything i say....He makes fun of everything....like it a cute girl walks in he mocks how i talk to them....He always puts me down....he says" your a wierd dude,,,,your a douchbag ....dont talk to me.

---So the other day i boiled over at a comment he said and cussed him out in the back.... I was all in his face threating to beat his *** if he didnt stop...He complained to the manager (who hes buds with and even hangs out with and drinks and **** with him.) I dont think talkin to him would help and i know hes gonna be twice as bad..Now wat? Should i show the owner his facebook pics of drinkin to get him maybe fired? hes 20. How should i act next time I work with him??

But the Manager is his bud and will know if i get him fired and he makes the schedule so he could s***w Me over!!! Plus everyone likes him so theyd be mad!

Answer 1

It sounds like you work at a pretty shallow place. How about talking to the Human Resources department? Do you work for a franchised restaurant? If so, then that would mean you could probably go to corporate and file a complaint against this idiot and get him to stop or get him fired. Also, if you don't work for a franchise and it's a locally owned place, then you could ask who handles complaints within the restaurant. If it's one of the douche bag's friends, then go to their boss: the owner of the company. Don't let him get to you this way. I wouldn't say too much about him while one of his buddies is around, though. That will only make you look worse on your part. You need to be a better person than that jackass. I would recommend you leave if all else fails. No job is worth having to put up with that bull ****. Find a better place to work where you can feel comfortable and after you leave, THEN beat his ***!!! haha It sounds like everyone is buddies with him and taking his side, though. Which really sucks. No one realizes how much of an a*****e he really is. And that sucks on your part because this may just force you to have to leave. And that's probably the best idea. I hope this helps you out.

Answer 2

Just ignore him, he will think its not bothering you and he will leave you alone, so just advoid him as much as possible.

Answer 3

You need to talk to the manager. Does he ever do this when someone else is around? If so, then you have proof that he is harassing you.

If the manager doesn't do anything, then if you can, talk to the owner. If not, find the number for the regional office of the restauarnt, ( if it's a chain restaurant), and tell them what has been going on.

If nothing seems to be done, find another job, and then report them to the labor board. You don't need to put up with that bull----.

And like one of the others said, find him outside of work and pound the c**p out of him.

Sounds like he's jealous of you. Stay away from him as much as you can. He won't last long acting like that. Good luck!

Answer 4

This dude is seems to be g*y. I would recommend kicking the h**l out of him AFTER work.

Answer 5

Maybe he will back off.  Ask him to STOP his rude comments and tell him how it makes you feel...(like he cares?!)  If that doesn't work....document the harassment and report it to whoever is above your manager's head.  The world is full of unfair treatment...I would not quit my job because of him....that's probably what he wants you to do.  In the meantime you could look for another job....but there is always at least one person to make your life miserable.  Continue to be your cheerful friendly self and don't let the unfairness of this world change your personality.

Answer 6

this is a real inmature guy and so is the manger. if i was u i would tell the boss whats going with the two far as picking with u an hanging out together.i would explain my self thoroughly and let him no this is affected  Ur work performance. if that dint help go to the better business bureau and file a complaint on the company  ur expreince abuse so u have a case .what ever u do dont quit ur job let them fire u so u can get unemployment benfits. good luck

Answer 7

Hi i am sorry you are having to suffer this at work bullying is not acceptable in any way shape or form,i would go to youre boss and tell him if the bulying doesnt stop you are going to report him and the person who is bullying you and the law is on youre side you cannot loose youre job over this be firm and let them know you are serious and good luck.

Answer 8

Sounds like this dude needs to grow up. If I were you, I'd find a different job. Best of luck.

Answer 9

Secretly make an audio recording (use your phone if you don't have a tape recorder) of him insulting you.  Then give it to the manager AND whoever the manager's boss is.