How To Overcome Social Anxiety?

Question

have social anxiety and I want to overcome it. I'm very socially awkward around people and I just never know what to say to people, sometimes even my friends. I'd like to get at least a little better before school starts. Any suggestions?

Thanks.

Answer 1

The best solution: Don't think.

Thinking is what causes most forms of anxiety.

Answer 2

hang out with someone who is outgoing! try to be confident when you have no confidence at all. or "fake it til ya make it" and believe me everyone is too busy worrying about themselves to care much about you.

Answer 3

Ok, first of all true social anxiety cant be overcome, but you can learn to control it better. It doesnt sound like yours is very bad, which is a great thing. What's been working for me is monthly visits to a therapist and Zoloft but that still hasnt lead to perfection. I know it is difficult to ask for help, but it was the best thing I have ever done for myself. I live a much happier life and I hope you will soon too.

Answer 4

Some quick tips are to remember that others do not focus on the things you think are awkward as much as you do. People can be considered to be great friends and conversationalists as good listeners. Try to as a question and get the person talking if you get nervous, and remember to keep your body language showing you are comfortable and confident. If you look anxious, others will feel anxious and also, acting comfortable will make you feel more comfortable too (it sounds cheesy, but there are some good studies to support this). Sometimes I find it helps to focus more on agreeing with people; don't say stuff you don't believe, but emphasize the positive because this tends to make people comfortable. Remember, people who feel liked like us, so be sure to put aside your nervousness enough to communicate your appreciation for others, but not in a self-depricating way (like saying "you're so funny", like you wish you were).