How a person treats their ex tells alot about them.?

Question

I witnessed my ex treating her first husband like he was a piece of garbage, and remember telling myself she better not even think about ever treating me that way. We'll you guessed it. I am now the new garbage. The lesson I learned is when you witness someone treating an ex like c**p, chances are your next. I find it funny when people get jealous of their partner being civil to their ex. Nothing to be jealous of, but something to be proud of the type of person your with.

Answer 1

It's does show maturity when a person handles them selves well when they see their exes no matter how bad the relationship ended,But sometimes it's really difficult to control the hate if you were really wronged by someone

Answer 2

I couldn't agree more, and it gives me hope to hear that someone else thinks the same way.  My ex and I did have our rocky moments for about a year, but we've settled into a very amicable situation.  We've always stuck together to present a united front to our children, even when things were horrible between us.  It never ceases to amaze me how much criticism we have each received for being civil with one another and putting our children first.  I look at all the unnecessary stress and bitterness that people hang onto during and after divorces and it really makes me wonder how they can keep it going for so long.

Answer 3

Wow I like this thank you!!! My husband is friendly with his ex and I was worried about it but now that you posted this it makes me think twice. When I become civil with my ex husband for our kids sake (hes in and out of jail is why i said when) my husband gets VERY jealous. Maybe I should have him read this not sure it will help cause his ex wife cheated on him as did my husband on me so he is very tight leased now on me thinking/hoping that it will not happen again, Which I have no intentions of cheating but it gets a little annoying!! Thanks again great post!!!

Answer 4

I definitely agree. It shows more maturity if you are able to be civil/friendly with your ex. It almost seems like if you treat them badly or act all angry, there are still some feelings involved, whereas, if you can be cool with them you have obviously moved past whatever the reason was you broke up..

Answer 5

wow, this is pretty eye opening to be blunt.  I couldn't agree more with you, my ex told me some little (nothing long or anything irrelevant) but, things about her ex'es and how things ended, and I never read much into it, but man she was cold and wouldn't you know that's how she was when we broke up.  She was very cold, very careless and just COLD - d**n, while i'm telling her how I feel she's yawning and looking at the time.