How about a hypothetical question regarding abortions?

Question

I have a hypothetical question regarding abortions and I'm curious as to what women will say.

Lets say you find out that you are pregnant and its very early on and you tell the man you were with about it. Lets say he is less than pleased and asks you to get an abortion (and you're a lady that fights for abortion rights and believes nothing is generally wrong with it).

He says he will pay for the procedure himself and does NOT want to be a father at all. He even says that if you really want a child that he will give you money for the cost of a visit to a sperm bank.

What would you do? Honor his request to not be made a father? Or do you believe that he's S**t Out of Luck and you will do whatever you please despite his feelings?

Answer 1

Shrieking Violet needs to learn about birth control, 10 abortions is just ridiculous.

Really, thats just disregard for anyone but yourself.

I feel bad for the father's, i'll bet at least one out of 10 wanted the child, but ohhh too bad, you had to do whats right for you right?

Answer 2

If it were me, I would have had an abortion anyway, so my response would be along the lines of "h**l yeah!"

If I were a different person, I would have let him go off on his own while I raised the child, but this wouldn't happen without serious planning.

Answer 3

Why would I want to go to sperm bank if I am pregnant with his child?

Ultimately the decision would be mine. It wouldn't be about his luck or whatnot, and if I cared enough about this person we'd come to a decision as to what we should do together. However if I want to keep and he doesn't, I would have him relinquish all parental responsibility and make it on my own. I would assume all responsibility without his help.

Answer 4

No! Stand up for what YOU believe in.  This is a child..it is not a choice.  I believe in my heart that this child wants to be here.  Some years down the road you will regret your decision to abort, please trust me on this ok?  

Answer 5

if i want the baby it's mine and i'd keep it.  & after that i'd cut off all communication with the jerk

Answer 6

I personally don't want kids, but if this were the hypothetical scenario nothing would stop me having it if I wanted it. If he feels that strongly then he should have spoken his views BEFORE dropping his pants. It takes two to tango but in the end it's the woman who can legally make the decision on her own so it's for the mans benefit to make sure he doesn't get in this situation. If couples talked about consequences before dropping their pants this wouldn't be an issue.

Answer 7

Sorry but if I was pleased about being pregnant, I would not get an abortion. Support of abortion rights does not mean I would necessarily get one myself.

Rest assured I would take and expect nothing from the father. He can keep his money and his time all to himself. As for the child coming to find him 18 years later, I would do all I could to discourage that. Never you mind how. That's my affair.

Answer 8

Id be a single mom, and he could walk....

EDIT

I get that he doesn't want a child, that's his choice but I would not abort. I would severe all ties with him and raise the child the best I could.

His feelings are nothing compared to the life of my child as far as I'm concerned.

I'm Pro Choice but I will never get an abortion.

Answer 9

I support choice for women.

I never want an abortion.

So, him asking me nicely to abort would be resoundingly ignored. The men I have slept with are aware that I've no intention to abort... however, I will fight an abortion ban with everything I've got, should one arise.

Answer 10

If I didn't have someone who would stand by me then I would have an abortion and leave that person.  I would never be "very pleased to find out [I] had become pregnant" because I don't like kids and never wanted any.  It would be most unwelcome news.  

I wouldn't be able to cope with a baby on my own.  Insufficient  resources.  Don't want a kid anyway.

So - for me - your "hypothetical" question about a "hypothetical" situation could never happen.

*Sorry little girl; you lack the life experience I've got.  Trust me, I've never regretted either of the abortions I had 10 and (almost) 30 years ago: please trust me on this ok?

Answer 11

princess u hate men dont ya?

you say a mans only right is to have s*x or not...women can do what the h**l they please and correct the mistake...men get no such luxury

its also funny how women say men dont get a say in abortion but as soon as the child is born the mother says to the father "come on equal responsibility and all that, you have to support this baby"

say that is like this

going to a pub with a guy...who buys a bottle of £1000 champagne and you get no say whether you want any but you still half to pay for half the bottle, would you be pissed off...d**n right you would...so imagine how us guys feel when you say we dont have rights but as soon as its born you start your it takes two to tango c**p and we are now liable