How about adopting a girl who is five?

Question

i want my parents to adoupt a little girl! really i want her to be five! my mom is not all the way convinced yet but i really need a sister. i am 12. i would so love to have a sister. do you thin this is a good idea. i'll e-mail you if you tell me too! if you need more info.! thx

jessica

PS: i also have a little brother who is 9 almost 10? do you thnk it would work out? and what age should she be! we know if we adopt a child it will be a girl. is this the right choice! help! please!

Answer 1

My kids are 5 and 12,but not adopted,and it works just fine.My friend's kids are 4 and 13 and that works fine too.

Answer 2

Honey,

Only your parents can decide if they are financially, emotionally and physically able to adopt a 5 year old girl, or any child for that matter. Children who are older and in foster care often have special needs. That's something you have to consider also.

Just wanting a little sister is not a good enough reason to adopt. You need the desire to love another child, to parent another child. You have to have room in your heart, and your home, for more children.

Answer 3

i think it would be a great idea! but you should talk more with your mom about it..im adopted and it's great..you should! hope everything works out!

Answer 4

well at 5 shed probly still have time to get used to your family..but 3 kids would be kinda hard

if your parents say its bad then they probly think its not the right thing to do..even tho the little girl probly needs a home

Answer 5

Well I think this is a decision for your parents.  Maybe when you become of age and are in the parenting stage of your life this can be a goal for you.

Answer 6

that is ridiculous do not adopt that child just cause you want a sister, you mom better say no!

Answer 7

yes works good she has someone to look up to

Answer 8

Generally speaking, adopting a child can be a very good thing but it is entirely up to your parents.  They would have to do a lot of work just with all the paperwork involved, not to mention the extra work of bringing up another child.

Answer 9

Im all for adopting. You're giving a child a second chance at starting their life with a new, forgiving, & willing family. 5 should be great but, I would consider adopting closer to your age like 10,11, or 13.

Answer 10

If your parents truly want another child, and feel that the bes way to add that child to the family is through adoption, then I think that's wonderful. However, they should not adopt only to provide a little sister for you, if that's the main reason they are considering it.

Also, while there are many older children in need of homes, you must understand that these children have had a rough life so far, and there may be many challenges and issues for your family to consider, especially if you're adopting out of the US fostercare system. These children need a family that is prepared and dedicated to meeting their needs, and understands that she might not come to them as a happy, cute little girl ready to become an instant little sister.

This is not to discourage you, but to let you know that adoption is a very serious decision and not to be entered into lightly.

Answer 11

Hi there the choice has to be your parents do they want to? i mean its not up to you all it would be great but that is up to them and wehter they can afford another mouth and all that. sure a big family is alway sgood i was adopted and lucked out with great family and 5 would be great also. take care.

Answer 12

adopting an older child can bring problems into your family.  depending on her background and her life so far, she could have emotional problems that would make life hard for all of you.  it's your parents' decision, not yours.  you don't "need" a sister, you want one.  that's a good thing, but is it for the right reasons?  start taking care of kids if you can and see what it's like.  mabye there's a foster home nearby and the foster mom will let you help her out.  have you asked your brother if he wants another sister?  this will effect everyone in your life.  they need to have a say.

Answer 13

It sounds like a reasonable age difference, but your mom has to be able to handle three kids.

Maybe you should mention how willing you are to help out. That always helps to reassure parents. =]

And I can understand why you would want a little sister. It doesn't necessarily mean anything other than you want another person to play with and take care of!

Answer 14

While I'm sure your parents value your opinion, ultimately, this is up to them. Adopting a child is a very large step in growing your family.

Why do you NEED a sister?  If you've already got a sibling, you're further ahead then a lot of kids.

Maybe you are having a difficult time at school making new freinds? Maybe you aren't fitting in as well as you'd like and you feel having your own sister would make things all better?

I would have loved if my mother had more children, but I knew it wasn't possible, so instead I built up the friendships I already had.

I think you need to take a long hard look at yourself and ask WHY you need a new sibling...there's always a way to fill in the gaps with what you're missing by volunteering, plus they don't read your diaries or borrow your belongings without asking like a real sister does.

Volunteer with a Spark or Brownie group, ask your local church if you can help out with the younger kids in Sunday School.

Like I said before, ultimately this decision will be your parents, not yours, so in the meantime, get involved in your community and spend some time with some younger children...impart your wisdom on them, listen to their problems, and just be plain silly with them.

Answer 15

It's a person, not a toy.