How am I suppose to feel? Husband not treating me Same.?

Question

I have been in this relationship for 2 1/2 yrs. Things was great till he asked me to move n. I have had his ex walk n my house , stop and let me know where I stand w/her and him ( I am 2nd-her words). Now the kids r envoled,because we fight,Cause all I want is him to set things straight w/everyone. I am not asking him to yell or go punching anyone, He said it is not his place,it didn't happen to him,but He can correct me , yell at me, just be real hurtful, we were really get at first.and that is what I hold on too. And yes it has brought out a ugly jealousy in me. HELP make me understand?

Answer 1

thats why you should not marry anybody who has kids

if you dont have any kids then you find someone without kids

if you have kids from previous marriage, then you should be strong enough to take and give for what is yours ......its a constant battle!

so far you have only lost  2 1/2 years......had enough....cuz its not goina away!  

Answer 2

You have the right to feel the way you do.  The ex should have nothing to do with your husband.  You are suppose to be 1st with him.  The past should be over and done with.  It is obvious that it isn't.  Either he settles things now with the ex or you move out.  If it is not fixed now then she will always have a hold on him.  He should tell her that their relationship is over and to leave him alone.  He should also tell her that she has no right in your home.  If he doesn't want to say any of these things to her then he is obviously not the man for me.  Painful as it may be you will have to leave.

Answer 3

his ex walked in and told you, that you are second.  1 of the 2 things are going on.  1 he is still seeing her, or 2 he is tired of the drama btw the 2 of you.  If I were you, I would NOT allow her back in my home, and take matters into my own hands.  I would not bring the issue up any more with my husband, and put an end to her childish behavior.

Answer 4

his ex just walked into your house! that is CRAZY!

i dont know what you should do. this sounds tough. but i do know that this is crazy.  he needs to have boundaries with his childrne's mohter, one being dont just walk into my house.

marriage counseling.

he needs to learn how to give your respect.