How am i supposed to cope with this?

Question

i wonder if there is a support system or like a group therapy type thing for something like this. if you know of any, please post a link or something. ever since i was a child, i had an attraction for women. i've been involved with a girl for 7 plus years and then she very abruptly left me for a guy. it was devastating for me. i really invested everything into that relationship, and i would have died for her. she just acted like it was all a lie. it's been 3 years, and i still love her. i really want to move on, but i'm only attracted to women. i would give anything to go to a L*****n bar or something and meet someone new, but my religion is against homosexuality. do you know how very frustrating that is? i feel so depressed b/c i'm lonely, but i can't do anything about it. anyone know what i'm talking about...know how this feels?

Answer 1

Well your religion didn't seem to bother you those 7 years you gave up for the other female, get out have some fun, go to a g*y pride parade, you'll meet someone...

Answer 2

Shakespeare once wrote: "To thine own self be true, that thou canst be false to no man." It's time to be honest with yourself. You can't practice immorality and still call yourself a religious person. You are being a fraud to yourself and to your faith. Even for myself, being a Christian means I'm not to have s*x outside of marriage. I'm a widow and yes, it's tough. Having beliefs means you have a guidebook to follow though.  Just because something's popular doesn't make it right. As a general rule, whatever is popular usually isn't right. So, you have to make a decision if you want to live with yourself. Either deny your religious beliefs, or change your lifestyle. You can't have it both ways.

Answer 3

Are you worried that someone you know will see you? Or is your sense of shame more deep rooted - do you feel somehow that you are doing wrong in the eyes of God?

No matter what your religion, you surely can't believe that God wants you to be unhappy and lonely for the rest of your life.

Answer 4

OK Sweetness, I'm going to give it to you straight>> I doubt you'll like it though so stop reading now if you're the super sensitive sort that likes everything sugar coated, & can not accept an opposing viewpoint.  You want an honest opinion, keep reading.

You must first accept & love yourself for who & what you are.  That means stop being a sanctimonious hypocrite by supporting churches who don't support or accept you for your sexual orientation.  If you want to believe in something, start believing in yourself.  Jesus said to love thy neighbor.  There was never an addendum added; But not if they're g*y, L*****n or transgendered.  

There are a lot of what I call "homo haters" out there.  They are closed minded bigots & see no reason to repent for their sin of hating the sin & the sinner.  

Next, you must meet new people, starting now.  Are there any GLBT organizations near you?  Have you looked into any university student centers that sponsor activities if you're in that age group?  Have you checked for any online dating sites set up for GLBT?    Did you know too there are cruises for GLBT, nudists, & just about any group out there?  

And yes, I've felt lonely after my last divorce.  But then I realized the many advantages of being free > able to come & go as I please, can scratch myself wherever I like whenever I like, I answer to no one.  

It's an attitudinal sort of thing.  But you have to put yourself out there.  First, change you attitude, smile more, complain less.  If you need immediate companionship, find a feline or dog > though felines usually have their own issues they're dealing with, & it's hard to know if they ever resolve anything.

As Mame once said >> "Life is a banquet, and most poor b******s are starving to death!"  Join the banquet > no need to starve.