How and what do i tell my mother? HHHEEELLLPPP?

Question

ok my parents have spent a lot of money on my horse ridding. and im scared and wont to slow down for a wile and im not ridding to well at the moment. my mum just came in and told me its ok, shes not angry with me just cranky that iv had so much money spent on me and im not a fantastic and great rider. she said i will never be good at it because haven't got the drive, but really im scared because i got a horse that was to crazy for me. and now even my new horse scares me.

i cant tell her this because she terrifies me. when i was 8 i told her i did nt wont to keep ridding and she said that if i didn't ride i didn't have a life and i would be like my grandmother, an ugly ***** that dose nothing but go shopping and on holidays. I LOVE MY GRANDMOTHER and i think she lives a great life. i try my hardest but my mother wont's to much from me!!!!!

she dosent understand me at all!!!!! she tells me to grow up but she wont let me. i get no freedom at all, no say at anything and if she ever asks me a question she dose not even listen to what i say and just dose what she wont's anyway. i cant tell my dad any thing because because he just goes and tells her and she gets mad at me. What do i do. im sick of being told im a lazy ugly slob!!

Answer 1

Some mothers want their children to stick with the things they decide upon at a young age.  And they believe the child can succeed with it through adulthood.  They also believe some options and choices will being in lots of money, and apparently, all three apply to this.

I'm sorry about how she's treating the whole thing, but you just have to be honest.  Tell her you just wanted to try it out, and sometimes people loose money and time on things that don't work out.  It's all a part of life.  I'm sure she'll understand.

And if you love your grandmother, take what she said about ending up like her as a compliment.  Prove her wrong, and show her that you still can succeed at something else.