i have been in a verbal/emotionally abusive relationship for 9 yrs and 4 days ago this happened.
The school called me and said I needed to come and pick Kaleb up (this was friday morning around 8am) said he was drunk. I said WHAT!!!!! I got there and Kaleb was drunk off of his ***. He drank a half bottle of rum. Stevi was in the office with him and he had told the principal and Stevi the reason why he drank was cause he has been down and depressed lately said since he has gotten back from his dads, he can see that Stevi and I have gotten closer over the summer, felt like my relationship with him has changed and that we aren't as close as we use to be, he didn't think I loved him as much, didn't think I really cared if he lived with me or his dad, JIm makes him feel like c**p, that jim and I fight all of the time..... I told him that I do love him very very much and that him and I will always have a special bond, he kept on saying Momma I love so much and I just am not close to my dad and that he barely knows his dad and he didn't want to go back again that he wanted to be with me, that he wanted to make sure him and I are always close. that he doesn't like feeling like he is left out. I took him hom (the boy couldn't even walk) and I got him home, put him on the couch and thought there is no use talking to him plastered like that, he wouldn't remember a thing, so I thought I will just let him sleep off his drunk, called work and cancelled my meetings, thought I will just get my laptop (since I have remote access) I can do work at home, as long as I don't have any experiments to do that day. So I thought I will get some work done while kaleb was asleep. Jim is laid off so I went downstairs, he was still in bed and he said Whats wrong now? I told him about Kaleb and what Kaleb said to the principal and stevi and jim blew up and said thats just an excuse and he shook his fist and said he just needs someone to kick his *** and show him a thing or two and he would never do it again. I told him I said "don't say anything to him" and he was mad and said "Oh like you've done such a great job" I went upstairs, checked on kaleb we outside to get my laptop and all of a sudden I hear kaleb screaming like someone was killing him, I raced inside and kaleb was on the floor in a fetal position, crying and screaming "jimmie i promise I will never do it again, please jimmie please, stop, don't hit i promise i will never do it again. Jim was calling him a *****, a momma's boy that needs to be taught a lesson, when I walked in jim had picked up his leg and stomped on kaleb's face with his foot (like he was killing a cockroach) and I ran between him and kaleb and told jim "stay away from him, you are not going to touch him again, just leave him alone" he kept on calling him a *****, a momma's boy that needs his momma to save him, told him to get up and fight like a man, he said get up you punk and let me kick you *** again, let me show you a lesson, I kept on telling him "you are not going to touch him again" and he got just inches away from me and said "you better shut up" and I said "I will not shut up and you will not hit him again"...I told kaleb to get in the car. Kaleb told me jim slapped him twice across the face, drug him off of the couch, tried to get kaleb to stand up but kaleb was to drunk to get his balance, and just got in a fetal position to hide his head and face as much as he can. and that jim took his foot lifted his leg and stomped on his face calling him names....telling him to he was going to show him lesson. Jim asked me 'are you leaving' and I said 'what do you think' he said 'you don't have to leave today' and then he said 'its probably better if you go and calm down, come back later and we'll talk' I Left the house, told him it was over and that I would never be back to leave with him. I guess the sheriff's office came by to see me to give me a ticket for kaleb for Minor Consumption and jim told him 'oh I thought you were here cause she went to the police over me slapping kaleb around' .... the sherriff called me and asked me about what jim said and i said yes it was true, he did hit kaleb. he said he wanted me to come into the office bring kaleb. he asked kaleb a few questions, I have him my statement of what i saw, took pics of kalebs face. called jim to come in and give his statement, jim went down and they read him his right and he refused to give a statement without consulting his lawyer first. He told the sherriff that I am not to be back on his property, that he was moving all of my stuff to a storage is north terre haute. they told me there isn't anything they can do cause its his house, in his name and we are not married so whatever personal items he gives me of mine and the kids i am lucky to get. that if there are things he doesn't give me that I will have to take him to small claims court. just doesn't seem right..... but i told the sherriff that all I want is my kids stuff, their clothes and my clothes. the sheriff said jim said i could not have anything in the house furniture, washer,dryer, beds, tv, ect. and told the sheriff i don't care I don't want anything I just want our personal stuff, i want out and I want him to just leave me alone.....that I will not let him to ever control me, or hurt my kids in anyway ever again. This wasn't only the straw that broke the camels back but it cut the camel into.
I am staying with a friend of mine that lives in the same school district. I think I might have a rental in bridgeton a 3 bedroom old farm house on about 4 acres. the kids are excited and I can see they are alot more calm and content now. This time I will NEVER EVER go back, i am not sad or depressed I only feel relief right now. I only think about the image I saw of what he did to my son and how I feel really really responsible for putting my kids back into that situation, a situation where I know is not good for them.....
I am just looking at today and the future for me and the kids...... I told both of them I will never bring another man into the house until they grow up that i will never put them in a position like i have with jim. that i will probably date eventually but that will be a long time from now. that all 3 of us are going to go to counseling as a family and individually to get past all of this and for me to find out why I choose men like jim, and to make sure i never pick another abusive man.
Where do I go to find a counselor that specializes in abuse for me and my kids????
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