How are we helpingpeople by adopting children?

Question

How are we helpingpeople by adopting children?

Answer 1

I agree with the post above....  and tend to seperate my "helping" people from giving a child what they should just have a safe family with security and love...

I "help" people in a lot of ways related to adoption such as speaking up and trying to advocate for the needs of abused and neglected children... By trying to make schools, communities, mental health, churches and other groups aware of the life long effects that some people suffer due to prenatal exposure and other abuse....

Adopting a child is what I do for the child in an effort to provide as normal of a life as possible--and beat down services that will help my child become the best they can become....

I try to let other families know in a real way how many children are waiting and what the Realities are when a child has been hurt before they even had a chance... and I try to make real the implications of some of the issues a child who was abused might bring to the life of a family--to aviod watching others get into situations they were not ready for and end up causing a child more hurt....when they can't provide for the child in the end.

I guess there won't be any questions about how we help by adopting children when there are no more children needing families....

Answer 2

When I met the birthmother of my son, she said, "I am so relieved".  She didn't want him, and was just relieved that someone showed up to adopt him.  She loved him enough to give him up because she knew that she couldn't take care of him, and she said she wanted an open adoption, which we have tried with her, however, she continues to prove that he is much better off with us than with her.

Answer 3

We are actually helping the children but, by helping the children we also are helping the parents who gave birth to them!  They know the child is getting a chance at a much better life than what they could have given them themselves! You see, people who give children up are very selfless=}

Answer 4

the only person that gets helped is the AP.  the child and bmother are the ones that suffer.

Answer 5

Helping to break the cycle of poverty and alleviating the tax burden by reducing the amount of children on public assistance.

The majority of children born into lower socioeconomic families tend to go on and have children that are doomed to follow in the legacy of failure.

Furthermore......

If parents fail to teach their offspring the basic morality and knowledge that are the foundation of the tradition of the community, then the resulting adult will fail to become a useful citizen, but will become a problem citizen—an individual with an understanding different and incompatible to the shared understanding that is the community. Once such problem citizens become sufficient in numbers then the community must decay until it finally dissolves

                

     ------ The Law Of Reverse Civilization

Answer 6

I adopted 3 years ago. His birth mother was only 15 when she got pregnant. Our intention was to help the baby more than the mother, but..... It also ended up helping her. Instead of being a 15 year old mother and not finishing school etc. She is now in college, and working on her future.  I am not saying she would not be a good mother, because she is very loving, but she knew that she wanted to go to school, hang out with friends, and have a normal teenagers life. It would be very hard to do that being a single young mother.

Answer 7

yes we are

Answer 8

You would be helping the children have a better quality of life. Think about it, would you rather grow up in multiple foster homes, an orphanage or a home where someone loved you and actually wanted you? Think about it!

Answer 9

Adoption is usually about people helping themselves.

Answer 10

Your question places the blame on adoptive parents. People will put their own children up for adoption until the end of time. Theres just no stopping it. They will either adopt the child out or throw it in a garbage bag somewhere - which is the better option? Instead of blaming the honorable people who DO adopt these homeless children and bring them into their lives - blame the whole foundation of adoption.

Answer 11

Sometimes people can't afford the children they have and when someone adopts the child/children, they're helping the parent/s with the undue stress. Most of the time, the child's life is a little easier because the adopting family has a little more money than the biological family.

Answer 12

ur really helpin the children=D not da people

u r helpin da children by letin them hav a chance in life and startin all over again

they would hav love and they would hav fun

imagine if u were them

having no one to care for or loved

da people adoptin them hav a heart and da parents tat raise their child even if they are disabled hav one too

not to forget da ones tat get abused too

they are normal but they get beatin up and tats sad and cruel

u wouldn't want to be beatin up for the rest of ur life gettin bruised up and bleedin

would u?

tats why by adoptin childrens u are helpin them

am glad that adoptin was invented cuz if it wasn't alot of kids would die or even hav a bad life and regret livin in it

if u lik readin about these stuff u should read these three good book about a man wen he was small he gets abused by his mom

its sad=[

som parts would mak u want to cry

it's a thick book though but not that big as da harry potter ones

da author is dave pelzer(da main character and da real boy in da story)

first book is A Child Called"It"

second book is The Lost Boy,A Fster Child's Search For Love of a Family

third book is A Man Named Dave

this is a non-fiction book

u should read it=D

its a good book and i promise u won't regret readin it=D

u could check out his website www.davepelzer.com

Answer 13

We're NOT.

Answer 14

Let's be honest.  Adoption is another way families are created.  It is how we adopt, who we adopt from (agency) research we do, how our children are treated (OBC etc.), how bio/first mothers are treated etc. that define adoption.  

I fostered to help children.  I am adopting to have a family...will I help children in need, I guess so for us, but I won't hide anymore that I want to be a mother and this is the way my family will be created.

Answer 15

i'm sorry i'm confused. i thought children were people. adopted children are just people that grow up to be very unhappy people if they never find anywhere safe. and the fear of being unsafe will make them unsafe for other people to be around. in a lot of cases. if you take the foster kids out of the foster system and put them in a DECENT home. they have a better chance of become and healthy, happy and productive adult. if they can't ever find their place with people they could feel very unwanted, that deep sadness turns to pain eventually and that pain turns to anger, and that anger turns into crime.

I don't like adoption but it's better than the foster care system.

Answer 16

I don't think the point is to help people I think the point is to help the children