How bad does this sound? Please help!

Question

I am getting married in a few months, I am going less expensive as I can. We are doing decorating with flowers and balloons, We are going to have chocolate fountains and various dippings and also a big cake. We figure we should spend more money on food than decoration and thats all people really care about. We are not dancing and we are trying to be simple. I am wondering if people are going to think this is the most boring wedding ever and wondering if there is anything I can do to make it better?

Answer 1

I used to be a wedding videographer and coming first hand from someone who spend every weekend at weddings for 5 years what your doing isnt bad at all.

If you dont want to dance, its your money dont dance. I would recommend having some music just in the background.

Probably cocktail music, you could get away with buying a kenny G CD and just playing that over a loud speaker or boombox

If you arent going to have any dancing at all even for your guests... keep your reception SHORT! only 2 hours or so because people are going to leave after dinner anyway.

and I would also recommend if you want to give a speach to do it halfway through dinner if you want everyone to hear because alot of people are going to leave shortly after they are done eating.

The pictures are a great idea, I would also recommend if there is time to get it done. Find a local wedding videography company and see if they can make a photo montage of your pictures.

Itll probably cost about 800 to 1200 bucks depending on the company some are less expensive BUT with that price they'll come out and play the video on a screen for you and hook up a sound system so your guests can hear it.

Since they will have to set up before the geusts arrive you could simply ask them to play your Kenny G CD during cocktails and dinner and they could bring a microphone for when you do a speech.

I've done this hundreds of times. Usually I'll bring the music and microphone just in case but again that depends on the company.

If you happen to be in the detroit area I can definately refer you to a couple of great companies that will do that.

good luck and CONGRATULATIONS ON THE WEDDING!!!!!  

Answer 2

Even if you don't want to dance yourselves, you should still have music so if people want to dance they can. Help a friend load up an ipod and use it as a DJ for the night. IT is cheap and keeps everyone entertained.

Answer 3

mabe get him to go with you to a dance studio and the both of you learn one slow dance together. that way your guest will have something to do rather than stand around and look at e ach other!

Answer 4

Yeah there should definitely be dancing...i mean thats the life of every party

Answer 5

We didn't dance at our wedding reception either.  We had music (live band) some people still danced, just not our thing.  Everyone had a great time and didn't even notice we didn't dance.  Just make sure to mingle!

Answer 6

Well your fiance doesnt have to dance but im sure the guests would appreciate it, at least have some background music so people can mingle.  

Answer 7

YOU should definatly dance, it will be boring at people need to party and stretch their legs

Answer 8

he doesnt have to dance and you can still dance!  Bun some cds and have a friend keep them playing!  Or come up with somethign else people can do!

Answer 9

is this a baptist wedding?

Answer 10

I think it's great that you're not dumping tons of money into the wedding -- after all, it is one day out of the rest of your life.  

You could probably word the invitations in such a way that people will know what to expect.  You could even give an "end time" for the reception.  Like: "join us for our wedding on.... hor d'oeuvres and cake will be served from 2-4pm."  And have background music playing during the reception (not dance music, but maybe jazz?).

Answer 11

I am going to say 'thank you, please invite me'. Make it casual and I will be your best friend forever!

I hate over-done weddings. You are starting your life, why blow $20k on a wedding? It sounds like you have a very nice day set up. Guests can caome and get out. It's what they want to do.

Marriage cerimonies used to go for days. Now we have pared then down to a few hours. Folks want to say congratulations, but after that they want to get on with their lives. Not making them stick around to see you dance is wonderful!    

Answer 12

First - understand that at your wedding, unless you're a big dancer, you're NOT going to dance much - instead you'll spend more of your time talking with people. My husand and I used and ipod and rented speakers. I think I danced about 20 minutes out of the 4 hour dance. Your Fiancee doesn't have to dance. :) It would give the guests something to do if you're worried about it being boring. Background music is usually really nice.

What are you telling people your reception is? Just dessert? If your guests know that this is only going to be dessert they won't be expecting a dance and thus it won't be boring. You'll want to have something that signifies the end of the evening though or people might be a little lost.

Second - if you really really don't want a dance - how about these options:

Put bridal mad libs about how you and your husband met on the tables and have people fill them out.

Do a slide show of you and your husband's life apart and together thus far.

You can have games/contests about love etc - guests have to sing a song or write a poem about love or weddings.

Have games at every table

Advice I have for you based on experience - Don't worry so much about what people will think - this is YOUR day and YOU and your husband have to enjoy it.

Good luck!

Answer 13

Its fine!

My reception:

- Slideshow playing while my husband and I finished up our pictures.

- Heavy appetizers, cake and punch.

- Piano playing during the reception.

We didn't have dancing...we just made sure to go to each table and thank our guests for coming and enjoy talking with them.  If someone is let down that your wedding isn't some wild, fancy party, they're probably not worth inviting.

Simple is fine.  Best of luck to you!

Answer 14

There is nothing wrong with having a dessert reception.  However, I would pass on the balloon decoration & use that money for classier decor - either more flowers, candles, even small framed pictures (you & FI as children, dating, your pets, wedding pictures from your parents' & grandparents' weddings).  To accompany your cake & dessert, offer a coffee bar as well with rock candy sticks for stirring & flavored syrups!

Answer 15

When you entertain at your home, do you usually have music playing? Often, when we have gatherings, it's all about the conversation. If your friends and family are used to this, then I don't think your wedding will be boring.

At most of the weddings I've attended, the bride and groom dance for two songs and the rest of the time the bride boogies while the groom socializes.  

Answer 16

It can still be fun without dancing. You could organize some activities or games that would encourage your guests to get up and mingle. Or, you can just do the dinner, there's nothing wrong with that.  

Answer 17

I agree with the dancing (I mean you personally don't have to, but perhaps your guests may like to). Some good music you already own on a stereo you already own, as stated above - is free and it's fun.

Also, I know it sounds lame but you can get cheap decorations at like the dollar store (or the like) and/or you can be creative and make your own...

In the end, though, your friends and family are not going there for decorations, they are going to share in a moment between you and your fiancee and to wish you happiness... you don't need dancing or decorations for that!

Answer 18

why not dancing? dancing will be costless lol

borrow speakiers and get a friend or family member to do the music. just make a playlist on someone's ipod and hook it up to the speakers.

oh ok fair enough, its their wedding too. i thort it was because of the money

yeah that sounds fun. have a great wedding!