How benificial is Pre school for children?

Question

Has anyone NOT put their child through pre school? and if you have not, did it cause them problems in kindergarden?

My son is very smart, he is adding and subtracting, can (kind of) write and reads 3 letter words BUT HATES the parts of pre school where he has to sit on the rug. It has caused MANY problems including the teachers calling for me to pick him up.

They also suggested a "worker" come in and be with him for the duration of the school at all times, but when I asked the HEAD of the preschool, she said that is "not the first step" and that first a "worker" comes in and helps the teachers figure out better ways of dealing with ALL the kids.

The teachers also have asked me to pick my son up half hour earlier than the other kids, when this was brought up to the "head", she told me that this is not usuall and talked to the teachers who now will not talk or even look at me.

I am very discouraged here, my son hates pre school and says its boring!

Answer 1

I find it interesting how many people seem to think that preschool is NECESSARY, when most kids never went to preschool up until the last 30 years or so. There was no need for it because women generally stayed home and raised the kids full time. Somehow, all those kids managed to survive school just fine and go on to college and careers and healthy friendships without preschool.

What has changed about the human race that now makes preschool necessary? Nothing, really. The only difference now is that in many families, both mom and dad work. So the only necessity I can see is to find a place to send the kids while the parents are working. If, however, a parent is at home full time, there is no reason a child MUST attend preschool, unless the parent is unwilling to spend time interacting with the child. In fact, studies show that there are significant benefits to children staying home with a parent during the preschool years, such as a lower incidence of behavioral problems. Preschool can help at-risk and low-income children, since they may not receive the interaction and attention from adults that they need in order to do well in school.

It's normal for young children (especially boys) to not want to sit still. If your son hates preschool, I can see no good reason to keep him there if you can be home with him. It sounds like he is very bright and obviously doesn't need preschool from an academic standpoint. I assume that you would take him out to play with other children if you pulled him out of preschool. It's doubtful that you would keep him locked inside the house 24/7. As long as he has opportunities to play with other kids, there's no reason to worry about his social skills. After all, kindergarten used to be where kids were first thrown together, and they all managed just fine (myself included).

Answer 2

I think that it is very beneficial that children go through Pre-School.  It helps them to develop there social and emotional skills that they are going to need in school and for the rest of there life.  I don't think it is your son with the problem, it sounds like to me it is his school.  There just not  wanting to deal with him.  I teach a K-4 class where I work and we do the Abeka Curriculum.  Yea they are at the table some but I also have them getting up and coming to the board or we will stand up and do our sounds and say our Bible Verse.  If they were keeping his attention this would not be a problem.  Sounds like to me that the teacher just don't give a rip and is lazy.  You should never ever not want to talk to any of the parents. I'd find my child a new school.  One that doesn't care to work with him....   One that has good teachers not lazy ones.

Answer 3

What a great lesson for your son, he is getting a taste of what life is really like. Let him learn how to get through tough times like being bored or following instructions when you don't want to. These are great life lessons for your childs future. My daughter would come home with red eyes from crying all day and she said she hated pre school but we never gave in to her request to stop going to school we told her that is how life is you are going to have to do a lot of things you don't like period. After 3 months of crying she now looks forward to going to school. I'm not sure how many pre school options you have but I would start looking for a different school because if the teachers are giving YOU the cold shoulder then they are probably treating your son the same way

Answer 4

Please do not give up on preschool but you need to find a quality one.  If it was a good cohesive school, the director would  have known that they asked you to pick him up early.  That should never happen.  Your son has now learned that if he wants to go home he only needs to misbehave.  

He does need to learn to sit through circle time.  This is a time where his attention and social skills are challenged.  He needs these skills to be successful in school.  If he is unwilling to sit during the time others are sharing or a story is being read, it will cause him social and learning difficulties.

When you choose another school, get references and make sure it is NAEYC accredited.  Also do not disregard the option to have an expert monitor your child's school behavior.  Any insight into your child's educational process should be welcome.

Answer 5

preschool is NECESSARY. look up the Perry Preschool Project and you will know why. but for now, it doesnt sound as though your son's school is putting his needs first at all. you should really look into different schools. preschool is to prepare children for school and no child should go without this or have a poor experience.

Answer 6

It sounds like he is not being challenged enough. I am an advocate for putting chilren in preschool. You just have to find a preschool where they can challenge him. good luck.

Answer 7

well i am still kinda young but i can help you !

i went to this thing called  HEAD START

and i was very smart as your son is

but it helped with socalskills and when i went to kindergarden i had some friends

and i wasnt as shy to the kids  i learned to behave in school  and how to listen

i wasnt scared or problemd when it was time to go to kindergarden because i arready did that sorta before!

Answer 8

I have to agree with another poster on that it sounds like your child is not being challenged enough and perhaps that is why he is not attentive during "rug time".  My daughter is the same way.   I do not think that pre-school is a must.  My sister and I never went to pre school because either my mother or father was able to stay at home with us and have school and we loved it and actually when we went to kindergarten we were way more advanced that the other students.  I would say perhaps finding a preschool program in your area that challenges your child.  My daughter goes to a private school and she is learning Spanish and learning to write full sentences and work on and with computers!!!!  It is great.  It also helps children to mature.

Answer 9

first, why would you send him since he is doing so well with what you are doing.  He sounds great but his abilities are not being challenged as so he might be acting out.  I feel that preschool allows for the child to gain social behaviors but if there is trouble go and sit with your child and see his behavior; does the behavior exist at school alone or in other places if so there could be a need for intervention.

Answer 10

I never went to preschool and im fine

i get all a's

:D

Answer 11

I didnt put my daughter in preschool and she had a rough start i put my son in preschool and he was ahead of every one i would put your child in preschool its not just the educational that they learn there they also learn very important life skills and social skills as well. but it sounds like your childs problems arent any of those to me it seems there is a worker that doesnt like him or has picked out of a bunch  report them if they dont take action and explain to your son that these people shouldnt influence him. good luck

Answer 12

Before quiting preschool all together, I would maybe look into other preschools. If he is having a problem sitting at preschool, then kindergarden is going to be even harder. Preschool helps kids get used to things like sitting and listening. Try calling around to different preschools and get some opinions, ask your pedi as well. It sounds like at the least you need to find a preschool where the teachers and the "head" are in agreement, and who are willing and able to take care of the needs of all the children and be able to speak with the parents no matter what.

Answer 13

It depends if he is in a academic based or developmental based preschool. They have distinct differences. You want a preschool that focus on developing the whole child yet allows them to be in a playful setting and be entertained and bored I feel you no not have a good preschool. Preschool is a great stepping stone for preschool.  The concept probably originated for two reasons: first, research shows that children learn easily and well at the ages of three and four. Second ( and most important), many parents are not around to teach their young children. The social benefits of pre-school are also undeniable. Young children learn to live in a classroom community; they learn to follow a routine, and to get along with people who aren't their relatives. Additionally The journal Developmental Psychology has just published new research suggesting that Oklahoma's pre-kindergarten program is a success at helping kids prepare for school. Oklahoma is one of the few states to offer preschool to every four-year-old. Its just a example of a professional view.

Answer 14

It will help your child grow up. I had preschool and I was smartest in my class every year

Make sure your preschool has many kids so your child can interact with them

Answer 15

Pre-School is not necessary. I didn't send my daughter to pre-school and she is now in the 3rd grade and doing fine. Your problem is his behavior and feelings towards school. When he gets in Kindergarten he's gonna probably feel the same way. My advice is to take him out of pre-school and talk to him a lot about Kindergarten. Make it something he can look forward to. If he's going to pre-school he already knows what its like. You've really got to figure out where his boredom and anger at the school is coming from before it's time for real school. I wish you the best of luck. I know it's got to be a terrifying situation.