How can I accept the fact that my brother doesn't want me to be part of his life anymore ?

Question

He has 3 jobs and works for up to 14 hours a day 6 days a week.

He never used to work that much, but then he found out his girlfriend was pregnant. She doesn't work and isn't in any form of education so he's the one providing for them.

When he's not at work, he's usually at his girlfriends house, sometimes he will stay there all night, then go straight from her house to work.

She's a nice girl but she's been being horrible to him lately but he still puts up with it. He thinks that because she's pregnant, her behavior is acceptable.

I feel as if he is favoring her over me. The other day me and her had an argument and my brother took her side, telling me that what I said was rude and disrespectful. The reason I said what I did was because she hit him.

When he does come home after work, he's only up for a few hours then he goes to bed.

I hardly ever get to see him anymore.

And he's going to be moving out soon ( Him and his girlfriend are both still living at home at the moment ) then I wont ever get to see him because he'll be looking after his " son "

I don't feel like I can talk to my parents about my problems and that so he's always been the one that i've turned to and now he's going. I'm 15 years old. I need my brother in my life !

He's my only sibling :-(

Answer 1

Really you just need to go tell him what you told us. That at this age you really want him in your life and want to still be able to talk to him about the stuff you can't talk to your parents about.

Answer 2

you really cant expect him to choose you over his child. you are going to have to accept the fact that he is going to be a father. its great that he is doing all he can to support his new family. Even if you dont like his girlfriend you should at least try and get along with her after all she is a big part of his life and your nephews mother. do it for your brother and your nephew if not for her. if you can get along with her then your brother will stay a big part of your life. you will realize what he is going through when you grow up a bit and have kids of your own.  

Answer 3

well, you can't really do anything.

sorry.

Answer 4

I think you are suffering from jealousy. You wan't your brother in your life and you aren't used to sharing him. Yes, his girlfriend may be treating him poorly, but you need to talk to him about it not start fights with her. Try to call him, text him, or email him and let him know how your feeling and that you don't agree with how she is treating him. You don't want to say it in a way where you sound like your controlling who he can date or else he will be mad at you. Let him know that you feel like he's not a part of your life anymore and that you miss him. However, you have to respect your brothers decision on who he dates, even if you don't like them. You don't have a right to tell him who he should or shouldn't date, keep that in mind. Good luck with your problem though! :D

Answer 5

Man thats messed up right there. I will never put no shmut over my own little sis even if she IS carrying my kid. Family comes first forget that. But its not like he doesnt want you part of his life sweetheart. Its just he has grown men responsibilities right now. Just talk to him about you telling that girl off. If he dont listen tell him what i said. Family comes before any shmut. I understand its for the baby but the girl should really come 3rd.

1. baby

2. family

3. THEN the babys mother

Answer 6

I'm so sorry, but it looks like your brother is up to his neck in responsibilities right now, and unfortunately, you aren't one of those responsibilities.  He's going to be a father soon, and he's being very responsible, trying to provide for the mother and the baby, so that means he's a good kid.  

You are going to have to learn that your brother's relationship with his girlfriend and his baby are going to come first from now on. You might not like her, but that's not your call, and really, it's none of your business.  He was right to call you out for being rude and disrespectful to his girlfriend, and really, even though you might not approve of her, that's his life right now.

Instead of making it more difficult for him, try to get along with her and make his life a little easier.  You can tell your brother that you miss him and that you jealous of the time he is spending with his girlfriend, and see if he can set aside a little time for you.  Once he understands that you miss him and aren't just being a brat, I suspect he'll make time for you -- he sounds like a good kid.  

Answer 7

you should talk to him.

tell him how you feel.

Answer 8

Well, really there isn't much you can do other than to be as supportive as possible.  He's obviously wanting to make this work (all those hours he's putting in), whether it's because he loves her or it's his love for his unborn son.  You know, he is setting a great example, there are so many deadbeat Dad's out there who find it "hard" to "keep" one job, and here he is and the baby isn't even born yet and he's working his butt off trying to make sure the baby will have everything he needs.  You should really tell him that your proud of him.  Another thing is that he's probably crazy tired and he's doesn't want to hear any negative stuff, because in a way that would mean he's working for nothing.  Just try to be there for him, try to be the one he'll want to come to when he needs to vent it all out, I'm sure he'll appreciate it.  

Answer 9

Maybe you should just talk to him about it. I don't think that he doesent want you in his life he just is really busy right now. I see what you mean though. I would call him on the phone so you dont have to talk to him face to face. Unless you want to talk to him. Or talk to his girlfriend about it she is a girl and will probablly listen to you. Just tell your brother that you want to hang out with him before he moves. And if you like his girlfriend you should ask to go baby shopping with her and your brother  so you get to spend time with both of them and you get to bond and get to no his girlfriend even better then you have before

Hope I helped!

Answer 10

Your brother has a lot of responsibilities and priorities to take care of.

It can be stressful to him. Take a moment to discuss your feelings with him so he understands what your going through and you too can understand what he is going through as well. From there, you too can learn to compromise and deal with your differences and feelings and put them aside to be the strong brother and sister you guys used to be. You just have to face the facts and be supportive so that life is a lot easier for him. If discussing thing out doesn't work then put yourself in his shoes and you'll see all the hard work and what it takes. Besides when you grow you'll understand what he had to go through and why things like that happen and how things change.