How can I avoid coming across as creepy/annoying to my new roommate?

Question

Ok, first of all, I'm not saying I AM creepy or annoying because I think I'm pretty normal, but you never know how someone else is going to view your habits, so that's why I'm asking this. I just got a new roommate and she's a stranger. I know a lot of roommates don't get along, so what do I need to NOT do in order for my roommate to accept me? Thanks!

Answer 1

be urself. if u act like someone whom ur not, it always ends up in a mess. if ur roomate accepts the real you, which chances are high of, then thats great. dont stress urself out. just dont be too nice, that can get annoying.  

Answer 2

give them a lot of space especially on the day they are just moving in cos its tiring and stressful to move and the last thing you need is your new roomie all up and in your face. Don't ask nosy questions. Maybe offer them a drink the night they move in or some casual food. "Hey you wanna take a rest from all that unpacking for chips and a beer?" type thing.

Never go in their room. If their door is shut don't knock on it unless its an emergency or they have a phone call. If  their door is shut they want to be alone.

Always knock before going in their room and if no answer then you don't go in. Hey they could be having s*x. Don't ask them all the time what are they up to on the weekend or what are they going to get up to.

Just be casual. Let the conversation and company thing flow casually. Friendship will happen casually over time so you should not need to force it.

Answer 3

Do make some friendly conversation, but avoid taking up too much of his/her time. Make sure you give him/her lots of space. Just be intuitive to when he/her may want company and when they don't. Be sure not to be messy on his/her side of the living space and just generally be nice.

Answer 4

Be pleasant, polite, and clean up after yourself.  Reveal your personal life a bit at a time so as not to overwhelm her.  Pay attention to her cues, she will give you some that will let you know how close she is comfortable getting.  

Answer 5

The fact that you are even considering your roommates' feelings indicates to me that you'll be a good roommate and won't annoy them.  Just keep open communication about feelings with them and everything should be fine.

Good luck!

Answer 6

well if you have strange habits, do them in your own room

otherwise, just be normal and casual, not too interested in her personal affairs, and not too nosy...THAT can be creepy.  never snoop around in her room, mind your business but still be friendly.

maybe arrange to go out for dinner early on to get acquainted.

Answer 7

Just be respectful of her privacy, her things and her space.  Remember you SHARE a space so you need to pick up after yourself.  With any luck she'll do the same and you'll be fast friends.  

Answer 8

these are the things my roommate did....Don't do them

1.  Sleep with the TV on with music playing (I got use to it...at least she would turn the bright down so it was a black screen)

2.  Wake me up at 6:30 and ask if I finished all my homework (when my first class didn't start until 11:00!)

3.  Get  her tounge pierced and then constantly ask me if I thought it was infected (then stick it out right in my face)

4.  Invite boys over and then show them her "trick"  She could unhook her bra with no hands.

5.  Call the college radio station every 15 minutes requesting the same song (even if they just played it)

6.  She would freak out if I didn't call her and tell her when I would be back to the dorm room....hello roommate not my mom!!  (to be safe I did tell her where I was going and with whom...but lets not push it)

7.  Borrow clothes-even though she was 2 sizes bigger than me...yes I noticed!

8.  She would pretend to have s*x with her boyfriend than they would jump up from under the covers totally dressed and say something like "ha ha...fooled you".

9.  She would steal silverwear from the cafeteria so she could have a full collection when she moved out and into her own place.

10.  Became friends with Vikki who would watch TV with her legs behind her head....leave the room every so often to go and Spit in the sink (no she didn't chew tabacco she just spit alot) and would randomlly laugh out loud and really hard at nothing.  

11.  The first day she came in with all of her stuff in large black trashbags which she dumped all over on her bed.  

Some good things about her

1.  She was as messy as I was-

2.  Her b***s kept growing bigger so I got a lot of hand me downs

3.  We went to the same church so I had someone to sit with

4.  We liked the same music...and she introduced me to country..something I had never listen to before and ended up liking

5.  She had a fridge and microwave (then though both were illegal)

6.  She really cared about if I was safe or not

7.  She would lie and tell that creepy guy I wasn't home...or even better when she told him to stop calling I wasn't interested.

8.  She always had time for a donut run....at 4 in the morning

9.  We had similar sleeping patterns

10.  She never complained about my boyfriend (who ended being my hubby)

Good luck.

Answer 9

I guess you'll always have to be on your best behavior around her.  Every time you think you're about to do something creepy/annoying, stop yourself.  

Answer 10

Make small talk with her, ask her how her day is, what she wants to major in, what classes she has, & maybe compare schedules.

Don't ask super personal questions becauase that's creepy.

Don't say "are you going to..........?" like "are you going to finish that?" or "are you going to throw that out?" because that's annoying.

Don't be all up in her face, you two don't always have to hang out.

Don't watch her...... don't wake her up in the morning... don't get caught going through her stuff....... yeah [: