How can I be a good listener?

Question

Sometimes I interrupt when I got something to say because after I listen to what the person is saying,I forget what I say.Sometimes I change the subject too.I'm more like the talker.

Answer 1

you may have an overbearing personality disorder and need to go though behavior modification classes

Answer 2

Same here =)

It actually takes practice sometimes. Talking in groups is the hardest coz eight people want to talk at one point of the story so it starts to grow in tree formation.. Just keep in mind the things you wanna say and remember them, repeat them in your head a little but keep listening as much as you can. Once the person is done talking say "when you said ___ it reminded me of something..."

Answer 3

just shut up and pay attention.  you're being rude.

Answer 4

Well, when someone is talking to you, look them in the eyes and occasionally nod or make a short response.

It may be hard at first to just sit and listen to wait your turn but i'm sure it'll pay off.

Answer 5

In order to be an active listener, wait until they are done speaking and then paraphrase (repeat in different words) what they just told you without bias. This works wonders, try it!

Answer 6

Get  interested in the person you are talking with.  Make it your goal to understand thorougly that she is saying.

Realize if you talk too much you will miss things, sometimes good things the other person might say.

Practice active listening, repeating back in slightly different words what the other person is saying.

Realize that there are times when it is necessary for you to do the talking. Conversely, there are times when the other person needs to talk.  Try to be sensitive to that.

Answer 7

You just need to remind yourself to not talk so much.

It sounds simple and easy, and that's because it is.

You just need to get used to telling yourself in your mind not to interrupt, and an idea when someones telling a story is to ask them questions about the story eg 'when was this?' 'oh yea, and you were with your family??' etc etc.

Asking questions makes it seem like you're interested in what they have to say and makes people think you're a good listener. You just need to keep it in your mind and practise reminding yourself whenever you're in a conversation. It takes some time but it's definitely worth it.  

Answer 8

Have patience