How can I be a good stepmother?

Question

I am really in love with him but I am going to be a stepmother stepmothers get bad rept. How can I be a good stepmother. I love kids. I love everthing about him and I would like to love his kids like they where my own. I am 25 he is 37 his kids are 18 year old boy and 14 year old girl how can I be a good stepmother.

Answer 1

LOVE THE KIDS!!! thats all that counts.

Answer 2

be like an old fashioned but understanding older sister to the boy, and the opposite with the girl by opposite ask about things she likes, take her to a concert stuff like that, as she is at that age where girls form such deep bonds with their friends. towards her, let her know you WANT to be her friend and don't even want to think abt. replacing her mom. joke a lot, even the odd age appropriate racy one. have fun.

Answer 3

Just don't over step the bounds.  If they come to you great but don't push yourself on them.  Don't try to come between them and their father and don't try to be their mom.

Answer 4

Okay. Wow 18 and 14 are quite tough. In the begining just be nice.  Disapline when you think nessasary but dont go over borad. With the girl  mabey try to do girl stuff together? talk to both the kids. Get them to trust you. Basicly just stay calm and reasonable. Good Luck

Answer 5

Don't pressure them My stepmom just talked to us like befriened us. My brother's hate her cause she drank. But me and my dad helped her.

So just talk to them and be nice but don't be like a$$ kissing to them. It may take awhile but thing's will work out. Plus since there's a girl. You and her can go to the mall get your nail's done etc. Just dont like overact it.

Plus the girl will do what I did. She will get jealous. No matter which girl etc. They always get jealous cause the father doesn't pay attention to the girl as much as his wife.

But she will overcome it. So just like try and get her into the thing's you and your husband do. Like if he takes you out to eat go out with him alone first time. Then next invite her and the boy unless he doesn't wish to go.  If the girl doesn't want to go either dont ask why. Cause they will get annoyed.

And the boy I would suggest taking him out to the movies etc my step mom took my brother out to the movies. But don't try to say something like that chick is hot. Cause then he will feel werid.

My stepmom and I talk about period's etc s*x and question's about it. But over the 3 year's I gained her trust like she gained mine. And again with the girl I would suggest aswell that you get a bond.

And then just talk to her about stuff like how was her day at school. What she wants to on the weekend. And just be yourself.

This is coming from a 13 year old who had the samething agaisnt her stepmom. So I understand how they are going to feel.

If you have anymore question's just ask me. And I'll answer them for you.

Answer 6

By loving and respecting their father

Answer 7

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