I have been with my boyfriend "Frank" for 3 and a half years. We've talked about getting married, but there's no official date yet. We both have children from previous relationships; my daughter is 10 and his daughter is 7. My daughter lives with us, and his daughter lives with her mom. "Frank" has his daughter every other weekend, and sometimes more in the summer.
My problem is that after being with "Frank" for almost 4 years, I barely know his daughter, or anyone else in his family for that matter. The weekends that he has his daughter, he almost always goes to his mom's cottage, about an hour from where we live. His mom has a house in the city, but she goes to the cottage on the weekends that Frank has his daughter. There has been a few times that Frank has brought his daughter to our house to hang out with me and my daughter, but those times are very rare.
Just last weekend, Frank and I got into a huge argument. I had made plans for the 4 of us - me Frank, and our daughters, to have a fun weekend, going to the carnival, the zoo, and other stuff. Two days before the weekend, Frank told me that he was bringing his daughter to the cottage again because he wanted to spend time with just her. I was so disappointed!! I asked him if he could spend time with "just her" another weekend, since I had planned a weekend for the four of us. He wouldn't budge, so needless to say, I am still angry with him.
I eventually plan on being married to this man, and that will make me a step mom to his daughter. I would like to know her before this happens! I don't think its right for him to spend most of his weekends with just her, I want us all to be a family. What can I say to make him understand?????
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