How can I be more outgoing rather then shy and reserved?

Question

I've always been the "shy girl". I talk more once I get to know you really well but I make things awkward in the beginning. I never start a conversation. I want to change. I'm always unhappy and I rarely smile. I got home schooled last year so that made things worse because that made me more anti social. I am 16 by the way. I'm planning to go to school this year and I'm scared. What do I do? How do I make good conversation? How can I start being more outgoing and bubbly?

Answer 1

haha well u can just say hi to people then go from there...

Answer 2

When you ask people questions about themselves, you get them to open up. As you know, people love to talk about themselves. When they get to something that interests you, or something you know about, start talking to them about it. People who ask questions and who are good listeners are always thought of as good conversationalists. Write out a few questions and keep them handy. Just general things. I know how awkward it is to be shy, but there are a lot more shy people out there than you would think.  

Answer 3

It's always hard at first, but once you tell yourself there's really nothing to it, it's no problem.  It's not that scary talking to other people..do you fear being rejected or ignored by someone you want to talk to?  Here's the thing, if you're shy, you gotta get out of this box. If there's something you really want to say- say it!  if you're going to a new school, it's great for a fresh start, b/c no one knows you're shy.  Try to get invovled in school activities like sports or school parties.   And once you're a part of something like that, you'll have something to talk about.  But whatever you do don't try an be someone else b/c you think it'll get you more attention.  Be yourself.

Answer 4

just say i dont care and start a conversation even if ur saying wierd things its gonna work better believe me coz im kinda shy too but sometimes i have to get over it :D

Answer 5

Outgoing people can be really annoying. Some people appreciate shy people :)