How can I be more social and make friends?

Question

I am a very shy person. In school i rarely talk and i don't have much friends just 1 or 2 and i don't see them often. It is really hard for me to talk to people im always afraid of what people will think which makes it hard for me to make friends. I wasn't always like this, when i was younger i use to talk often and even participate in class but now i dont even participate because every one knows that i never talk and it would be weird if i all of a sudden talked in class one day. Outside of school i talk non stop around people im comfortable with and im also really funny. What can i do to break my silence in school and talk even if it might come as a surprise to everyone?

Answer 1

LOL, first off, is there a reason why this question is in the LGBT section? It doesn't seem to belong.

Anyway, I'm the same way. Talk to certain people individually that appear to share a common interest or a personality similar to you. Or at least engage someone who will give you the time of day and talk to you--you know, not ridicule or make comments and such. This will either get you an unexpected friendship and/or show your peers that you're a real person with thoughts and feelings--likes and dislikes.

In high school it was great, because I was able to fall in with certain peer groups that accepted me and usually shared common interests as me. They were more on the mature side, too.

I really don't know what to tell you. When I enter a new situation and I'm acting all quiet, shy, and sheepish, I usually just engage someone that appears to share an interest or personality with me. Or I position myself so people are FORCED to engage me themselves and get to know me lol. Or if by some miracle there appears to be someone else that seems to be there alone, shy, and aimlessly wondering, I'll go talk to them.

BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF ABOVE ALL ELSE THOUGH :)

Answer 2

Just do it. "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

Answer 3

Ok so join some after school clubs or even a sports team. TRUST ME, you will make friends and be seen as a more social and respectable person. Don't be afraid of change, or trying new things.

Answer 4

You need to show the rest of the school what youre made of!! One day in class, answer a question the teacher asks that you KNOW. Surprise everyone with some witty humour or a funny way of seeing things. make them curious, make them admire you. im sure everyone will love you! just ask someone one day 'hey did you get the hw? i have trouble with that sometimes...blah blah. yeah, i have to work alllll weekend. it sucks...i might go to a concert next wk' itll hit off like crazy! Hope this helped! good luck!

Answer 5

Just care about your own opinion and not the others. NO ONE is perfect remember you have skills and good things that others may not have. So speak loud and proud of your self good friends will come on their own.

Good luck :-)

Answer 6

Surprise them but slowly. I used to have that problem. I was the quiet smart person but i started joining in conversations, put my hand up in class, even if i only said one thing just to make my presence known and it worked. Don't be scared of what other people think of you cause i was like oh, what if they think i'm such a looser but chances are they don't. I was really surprised by the warm welcome i received and hope it works for you too. :)

good luck :)

Answer 7

if you have such classes in your area, join self defeating behavior, debate teams, speech class, etc.  see a counselor to listen to u talk about where all this started so u can get help with rewinding/fixing it.  

then join clubs/classes/teams for things u like to do. chess, dance, museum, photography, track, swimming, art, student government, cooking, etc.  when u do things that u like with others, chances are u will find more things in common and more things to talk about.

then own yourself.  why give power to others to own u? we r all born the same, then we die the same. ALL THE REST IN BETWEEN IS AN ILLUSION.  we all pick our own illusions.  nothing in this world matters except your faith, your family, your health, your survival.  period.

if you would feel more comfortable with decreasing first impression judgment, then stay clean, neat and fashionable in a way that u see fit.

when u accept urself, then damned the world.  as long as you are getting what u want and u are not hurting anyone, who cares what anyone else thinks.  

smart people talk about smart/important things.  stupid/dumb people talk about each other.

Answer 8

hmm hard question... first thing is what are u afraid of in school why don't u talk?? maybe u have to re evaluate that part... coz people do make mistake when they talk.. im sure try smiling to other people in school or just simple "hi" they may strike u a conversation next time... try to expand beyong ur boundaries and reach out to other people in school....

Answer 9

read one of these articles every night before you go to bed and then try them out the next day

http://www.angelfire.com/super2/overcomi...

it's really the reason why I stopped being shy!!