How can I be real friends with guys?

Question

I really want to start out as friends with guys before I like them, but every time I do I only start to like them more. It seems like every guy I know I could find a quality about them to fall in love with but they hardly ever like me back. I was really good friends with this one guy but then I started thinking he liked me so I started liking him and it blew up in my face and we're not friends anymore. So girls, (or guys whatever) how do you become ACTUAL friends with a guy without falling for them?

Answer 1

Well it just seems like you have expectations right from the start. When you meet a girl that you like to hang out with, do you instantly imagine yourself a year from now being the best friends ever? Chances are probably not. It also seems like you are looking for someone who likes you before you even decide if you like them or not. Trust me, you will know when things click. Because that's exactly it, they CLICK. You've got to stop looking and trying so hard because you just can't force these kinds of things. But you are right in one thing...becoming friends first. You have to get to know a person that way that friends do in order to have a relationship with them. So from now on, when you meet a guy who could be a potential friend, think just that...FRIENDS ONLY. If something more were to happen, just let it happen as it happens. Does that make sense? Don't be looking for qualities you'd want in a mate, don't expect things. Just make a new friend. You won't be so let down in the end if thats all you end up with. But in my opinion, a good friend isn't such a bad thing to end up with. Good luck!

Answer 2

Pretend they're g*y.  It works!