How can I benefit more from sessions with my therapist?

Question

I began seeing a therapist in the Summer of 2006 for an Eating Disorder. I'm in recovery now and I saw her to work through my disordered thoughts. Because I'm not focused on the disorder, I feel like my sessions with her are a waste.

Answer 1

That is a great question. I am a therapist and wish more of my clients would ask such things. Your question recognizes that you are responsible for getting the most out of your therapy and your own life. I would encourage to bring that question up to your therapist just as you did here. Ask to begin a dialog about where you have been, how you are doing now and where you would like to be. Talk about what works for you in your work and how you see your relationship with the therapist. Let her know that sometimes you think therapy is a waste, and why. Work together to create a vision of what you would like to accomplish next, and be willing to take a break from therapy if that is what you come up with. Oh, and congratulations on your work so far. It sounds like you have had some success, and you should feel good about that. Perhaps you and your therapist need to celebrate that success too as you talk about your future and what comes next. Good luck.

Answer 2

Like all relationships in life, a therapist's can run their course, as well.  If you don't feel they are helpful then I agree with the other posters - try to explain how you feel and see what input the therapist has.  Then find another therapist to try.

Answer 3

Definitely seek guidance from whomever you choose. It does not have to be this same therapist you've been seeing in the past, but even a guardian would be good- because overcoming an eating disorder is a long and difficult process as you already know, I'm sure. It takes a lot of courage. Maybe you'd like to talk about your insecurities? Maybe that is how your eating disorder developed. Perhaps give it a little time and continue your sessions and tell her how you're feeling right now. Speak how you feel. That's what they're for, aren't they? You could tell her that you feel like she is not much help anymore and unless she can think of anything to talk about, you don't think it's any use seeing her anymore. I'm quite sure she'd understand.

Good luck!!

I sincerely hope you're doing and feeling better!

Love,

Juna

Answer 4

Once you go to the therapist for some time, her effectiveness starts decreasing. It's better to find a new therapist. You'll find the change refreshing and the sessions will be more effective.

Answer 5

Maybe it's time for a new therapist?  

Talk to her about how you are feeling.  It may open up new avenues or maybe she has some thoughts on the subject, too.

Answer 6

I think you should tell her that. I would tell her that you feel you can move on from the subject and start dealing with other things in your life or start focusing on more positives :)