How can I build a 'thick skin' so people can stop hurting me so much?

Question

How can I build a 'thick skin' so people can stop hurting me so much?

Answer 1

You can't really control the emotions you feel when people hurt you (verbally, I'm assuming, not physically). What you can control is how you react. You can be dramatic and act like it's the end of the world, or you can go on about your business like nothing has happened. Maybe you're feeling torn up inside, but the important thing is to show strength on the outside.

If people insult you and it *looks* like it has no effect on you, then they'll be less inclined to keep doing it. Something I used to do when people made a joke at my expense: I'd look them straight in the eye, and with a bored expression and a dry tone, I'd say: "That's very amusing." And then I'd just go back to doing whatever it is I was doing before.

Answer 2

Take the good, leave the bad. Learn to have a better self-image.  I always say that if a retarded person(no offense intended) called you dumb or ugly would it hurt your feelings? People who treat you badly are retarded in some way, either emotionally or spiritually, etc...  so try not to let it bother you so much.  If a Phd says you're dumb, say thanks for the help and try to improve your intelligence as much as you can. If Joe on the street says it pay it no mind.  Look at the reason someone would do or say what they did. It may be out of fear or jealousy, or anger. Anything not done out of love doesn't matter. It shows their weakness as much or more than yours.  Finally, don't be afraid to admit that like everyone else in the world, you have weaknesses as well as strong points. Live, love, learn.                        jeff

Answer 3

Start installing your own barriers against those who cause harm.  put up that wall. Don 't let it down for no one but those you know you can trust not to hurt you. if any.   be stronger then they are,.. and don't let your heart run your mind.  but you mind run your heart.