How can I choose between my parents or my boyfriend?

Question

So.. my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. We just recently broke up, (I hurt him, and he broke up with me) and now we are back together working things out. Whenever we were broke up, I was absolutely miserable, I cried all the time, I couldn't eat or sleep...and he just broke my heart, because he wouldn't talk to me at all... long story short, thats all over, we are on good terms now. He used to come over to my house every single day for 5 years. (I still live at home with my parents) and now.. my parents absolutely hate him. They are SO mad at me for going back out with him.. they even locked me out of the house last night. They said if he ever comes over, they will call the police. They keep telling me I can do so much better, blah blah blah... but I love this man... we've been together for 5 years, and they really haven't LOVED him the whole time, but they liked him, I mean, they let him come over every single day... but now they despise him.. and I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend, and I love my parents... any advice would be great. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

They despise him because he hurt their "baby" and they have good reason to not like him for that. They had to sit by and watch all the pain and hurt you were going through and he did not.

Honestly, I would choose my parents over my boyfriend, because my parents can see what I am not willing or am too blinded by love to see. They may see the character flaws that you cannot but that you should. Your parents liking or disliking your boyfriend is a good indicator on whether or not you should be with that person.  

Answer 2

How about you go out for walks or you go round his how did you hurt him because if you cheated on him  then  i think his parents should be mad at him for getting back at you  if your parents don't like him that's fair enough but did u tell them that you hurt him first?

Show your parents what you have written x

Good Luck x

Answer 3

Honey... i am a parent and i would tell you why your parents hate your boyfriend. Parents hate seeing their child being hurt you just do not know how heartbreaking to see your child which you have protected so much since they were born being hurt by a stranger in the family. and we feel helpless because we want you to grow up and be independent on your own and see the outcome of your actions. Choosing between your boyfriend and parents should have never existed in the first place regardless on how he makes you feel inside. You could spend that much time with your parents and someday you will be on your own, and you'll never get it back anymore. no matter what you do, even if you disobeyed your parents you will always be their daughter and that love would never be changed. your boyfriend.. he is still a stranger no matter what, you'll never  truly know who he is not till you lived with him in a true sense, no matter what you do and say your boyfriend could leave you and love... but once heartaches sets in your parents and your family will always be there for you. no matter what. then you decide.

Answer 4

well if he was an ex boyfriend at one time or now there is a reason he's an EX. If you love him and he can't come to your house, then you two need to get a place together  

Answer 5

I think your parents are just upset with him still for hurting you by breaking up with you. .. that is a hard thing for parent to get over ( seeing their kids heartbroken) .. just give them time they will come around