How can I come out in college without everyone back home knowing about it?

Question

Especially with social networking sites like facebook where it's difficult to control your privacy.

Any tips?

Answer 1

s***w facebook! I mean really? If people can't accept you for who you are...s***w them.

But I know what you mean, just take off the whole interested in thing and relationship thing and then go to your privacy settings and (actually do this first before you change your interested in: and looking for:) and make it so your minifeed doesn't tell all your facebook friends back home when you did this and so people don't see every little thing you do. If they actually go on your page that's a different story but you can still keep your personal life a tad on the downlow.

PS Facebook is really getting stupid

Goodluck and have fun in College!!!! :)

Answer 2

If you really want to keep your sexuality from becoming known at home, then you should avoid outing yourself on social networking sites. If you absolutely must use social networking sites, then create a separate profile for your college friends.

Avoid telling friends that have contact with your hometown and, more specifically, your parents.

As I'm sure you know, being halfway in the closet is a hard prospect. Once you let the cat out of the bag, its only a matter of time until it becomes common knowledge. In addition, guys who don't find a girlfriend past a certain age are usually suspected anyway. If you do try to come out at school only, you should be prepared for the very real possibility that you won't be able to hide it for a protracted period.  

Answer 3

don't allow comments and wall posts, that should be better for you

Answer 4

People are amazingly clueless about stuff like this if they aren't looking for it. Most people are only obsessed with their own facebook page, let's face it. Just don't specify sexual orientation or make your social networking pages public. If there are people at your college who are from your hometown, make sure they know it's not public info.

Coming out first at college is great; it's what I did. You can feel OK with yourself in a new environment with new and supportive friends, and they will help prepare you for dealing w/ coming out to long time friends and family members. Good luck!