How can I confess my true feelings for a co-worker without freaking them out?

Question

See this is the problem I have a really bad crush on my co-worker she is straight she knows i'm g*y we have hung out a few times gone to dinner, shopping etc. she kind of knows that I like her but I've never really told her how I feel about her she's in her early 40's never been married I need some advice on how to go about this?

Answer 1

If you are close as friends, be honest with her. There are subtle ways to push a conversation to the level you want, but phrase questions so you have an escape clause, that is if you want to keep the friendship.You should not be judged by your life choices, but some people can't accept differences. If she knows about your choices, then ask her if she ever felt about same s*x as you do.Work your magic, and see what happens, but try to not lose the friendship.

Answer 2

I'd be careful about it.  If she really is a close friend and you can trust her I'd just drop it on her and she'll either react badly to it or accept it.  As for her returning feelings, thats totally out of your control.

Best of luck

Answer 3

Don't do it. The workplace is not an OK place to have crushes. Straight people know that s*x with colleagues is a disaster, and g*y people should know it too. Straight or g*y, don't make a pass at a person you work with, one of you will end up without a job.

Answer 4

be careful of sexual harassment at work.

you're phrasing the question like being co-workers is the majority of your relationship - which, to me, isn't a positive sign. make friends with her OUTSIDE work and let that develop before you broach the subject of your feelings toward her. then, when things are right, explain your feelings outside of the work environment.