How can I consistently obtain a positive outlook on life?

Question

I've suffered from depression, social anxiety, and isolation for 6 years now. I'm starting to change my ways but it's a difficult cycle to break. I find I can be happy for a short period of time (a few hours, maybe half a day). But I quickly forget to keep a positive attitude. For me, it's more difficult than it sounds.

How can I consistently have a positive attitude and feel happy more often?

Thanks!

Answer 1

I try to live by my motto "10 fingers, 10 toes."

Meaning right now, I'm lucky to have my 10 fingers and toes. No one is cutting them off. And it's not as simple as that, but it is a reminder that things could be much worse. And for those that have it worse, I just reach out to them.

Depression and social anxiety have been a part of my life since I was about 11. It is a really hard cycle to break when you are either sitting on the floor sobbing or sleeping for 15 hours a day. But the one person that can help you, is you.

For some people they just don't get how this can rule your life. My suggestion, my dear friend, is to find someone professional you can talk to. It's a long road to get over this.

But for today, the sun is out. No one is shooting at us. We have food in our bellies, families/friends that love us (and would totally listen if you had something important to say).

I used to smoke weed and drink to get over my depression. And really in moderation that's okay (in my book), but working out has really helped me. Especially if I'm mad. Instead of taking it out on someone, I take a brisk 5-10 minute walk and that anxiety is away. It may not always be away, I still have to take something when I fly, but it has helped me. Also meditation has helped me immensely. I would look it up if you are interested.

Help others... that's how I actually overcame my depression and anxiety issues. Because you know how they are feeling and when you help someone else out, a lightbulb may go off in your own head. Get the idea?

Keep your head up!

Answer 2

If you can maintain periods of happiness for half a day, you're actually doing about average. Some people would say "normal." Some of the issue is neurochemical, and you might be substantially improved with some medication. The symptoms you describe all typically group together as depression, and it's far more than just a habit you can change by "remembering" to be happy.

Other parts have to do with your world-view. As you perceive the world, do you even WANT to be happy all the time? The old line about "If you're not outraged, you're not paying attention" might be something of a guide here - if there are things going on in your world that you're angry about, that's a great source of energy, and might link you to like-minded people, which would cut your isolation. Finding situations where you can be of service to others might also be helpful.

Just keep at it the best you can and be thankful for even small progress - and remember, it's something of a 2-steps-forward-and-1-step-back proposition, so give yourself some slack on the 1-step-back part.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You know, when you wake up in the morning you have a choice. You can choose to have as good a day as possible and be positive or you can wake up and say d**n it's gonna suck today. The way you think has alot to do with your attitude and the way you feel. Make a conscious choice every morning to do your best to be in a good mood and take everything that comes your way with a positive attitude. Your mind is a powerful tool.

I've been through this... if you ever need to talk I'd be happy to listen

Good luck =o)

Answer 4

Sweetie, I guess no one is always positive, but I come close. I always try to thank God for what I have and I don't always ask for more. I read that this is a key to good mental health: enjoying what you have without always wanting more. When I start feeling down I say the 23rd Psalm. The Lord is my shepard I shall not want. Good luck Honey and I'll be praying for you!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Keep a list of the goals you want to achieve, what you want out of your life. It can include pictures, motivational quotes, whatever makes you happy. Keep it close to you, so you can look at it and remind yourself to be happy whenever you start feeling sad. Find a hobby to keep yourself busy.

Answer 6

When something gets you upset you have to look at the bright side of things. Ask yourself why you're unhappy and try to change that. Things can always be worse and they can get better too.

Answer 7

Hi there!

Ten years ago I was diagnosed with major depression, suicide ideation, and Borderline Personality Disorder.  I am also a recovering alcoholic.

With the help of psycho therapy and AA I finally learned how to be grateful for what I have.  Sure, there are things that would make life easier for me (like a job!) but when I do get down I make a list of everything good in my life -- I start with the warm sun, birds, etc., and a book called "The Precious Present."  It is not expensive and you can get it at Amazon.  I always have my sponsees read it and they are always helped by it.

Good luck.