How can I convince my 7 year-old daughter that she looks great in her new glasses?

Question

She liked them when she first put them on, but when she came home from school, she seemed really self-conscious in them and didn't want to wear them. I asked her why and she said she thought she looked ugly in them.

I'm thinking a child at school must have said something to her, but she denies this.

She hasn't complained since, but I can tell her self-confidence has dropped dramatically. She doesn't hold her head up when we are out, like she's hiding.

It breaks my heart.

Answer 1

It is heart breaking, but until somebody else tells her how great she looks she will probably be in the dumps.  I have gone through this earlier this school year w/ my own 7 yo daughter.  It does improve!

Answer 2

I'm sure it was a kid...they can be incredibly mean.  I work at a school and I make sure to make a big deal (in a positive way) whenever someone gets a new haircut or glasses...I wear glasses so that helps.  I could always send her a picture of me when I was 7 in my new glasses!!  I'm sure she looks much cuter!!  Just keep up the compliments and remind her why she got them to begin with...Maybe show her pictures of other people, celebraties or whoever that wears glasses...

Answer 3

Tell her it's the new STYLE! Tell her when you were little you had pink glasses and you were the popular girl everyone liked them!

Answer 4

I have a 10 year old son and he has wore glasses since he was 3 and he liked them until kindergarden and kids laughed at him I showed him pictures of famous people in his age group that had glasses he went back to school and thought he was a celebraity ... and he still thinks that lol

Answer 5

get her this book

"Inside of me" by robert b jackson

the is a poen called

I love my glasses i will look for it online (the poem) and you can print it off and frame it for her say even as her to say it a few times  dotn worry though her "body" changed and she will get used to it soon enough

could not find it but i will type the whle poem here you go...

                   I Love my Glasses

some teachers wear glasses. some pricipals do to. I wear glasses. What about you? Glasses are worn all over the world. By all kinds of boys And all kinds of girls......"

ok i will stop my hand is tired but email me and i will give you the rest

Answer 6

If she can see better with them, she will learn to live with them.  I got them at 7, and no, I wasn't as attractive.  The teasing was limited to "four-eyes:" nothing particularly directed at me.  But I wanted to be able to see, so I wore them.  If I complained for awhile, which I probably did, it was the normal kid dislike of change/transitions.

Answer 7

My mom told me that my eyes were so pretty, and my glasses were like frames them.  It didn't make me like them, but I thought it was nice.

Answer 8

sing this to her:

theres always someone fatter and uglier than u someone to make you feel good when there standing next to you, so when ur feeling down and out and don't know what to do, rememeber theres always someone fatter..and uglier then you.

it always raises my self-esstem

Answer 9

Just keep on trying to show her how great she looks.  You could show her some pictures of really ugly glasses, so she feels better!

Answer 10

have her take them off for a little while and  once she realizes the difference they really make she will probably appreciate them better.

Answer 11

ik how that feels...most chances kids from school said something mean to her..like she didnt fit in...let some of her friends tell her that she really looks good in them..help her get self confident so she can ignore the rude comments...it may be hard to teach a 7 yr old but maybe she could understand...make her feel cool

Answer 12

Talk to the teacher or school counselor and see if anyone else her age is wearing glasses. I have two students who are very well liked by their peers who both wear glasses, so we are trying to help out another student in another class who is embarassed by his glasses. Sometimes just knowing that someone else feels the same way (neither of my students is thrilled to have to wear glasses) can make a child feel better, as they are no longer quite so different.

Answer 13

Just keep telling her that she looks great. when i first got glasses thats what my mom told me and at first i didnt want to believe her then i got used to them and now its like they arent even there

Answer 14

How about taking her to the local photo studio for a portrait package to celebrate her new look?  Walmart regularly has inexpensive packages in the $5-$10 range.  You could even go to the local beauty school for a special hairdo and light make-up just for the occasion. (The ones here only cost about $5 for a shampoo and curl set.)  Perhaps the fun of getting pampered, posing for photos, and then seeing her special pictures framed on the wall will help her feel more pride in her new reflection.

Answer 15

I would just keep repeating how great she looks in her new glasses.  I was a little older when I got glasses, but I remember older cousins telling me that, "boys make passes to girls who wear glasses."

Glasses give you character.  You also might want to point out celebs/characters who wear glasses.

Answer 16

Maybe show her a celebrity that has glasses.  Kids look up to celebrities, and they are usually considered "cool."

Beyoncé wore glasses for fashion at the end of this video.  Maybe it will help.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=uahLDNBult4

There was also an episode of Hannah Montana where Lilly had glasses.  That may fit your daughter's age group better.

Answer 17

well does she kneo tones of clebes try to find some and they have glass simarly to heres and ask her if she looks good in them, when she sees this she'll have to love them and boost her confidnce. i thikn it's the bullying in school makeing her confidnece go down try talking to her teacher and see if some thing can be done.

Answer 18

You can tell her that she looks great but don't say it too much because then she going to feel more self conscious.  I am sure she feels that she looks different from  her friends, and she wants to fit in but I think wearing glasses makes her feel like an outsider.  Give her sometime she will be Ok.

Answer 19

I started wearing glasses at age 6, I hated them that I actually never wore them, and that made my eyes WORSE!!! First off, tell her that if she doesnt wear them now, her eyeswill get worse, and the thicker the glasses will get over the years, but if she does wear them, it strengthens her eye muscles and soon enough she wont have to wear them at all.

As for the self-concious thing, tell her, to tell those kids at school, to buzz off!! Because wearing glasses, is prettier than squinting, trust me, I've been there!! My eyes wrinkle now when I close them because I have squinted so much!!

Soon enough, people will forget what she looked like without them!!!

Answer 20

buy contacts.

Answer 21

Maybe you could talk to one of her friend's Mums and next time she see's her she coulkd tell your daughter how pretty she looks in her glasses, and how they suit her face - which I'm sure they probably do anyway seeing as she liked them in the first place.  You might not want to ask one of her friends to do it as it will probably get back to her that it was a "hoax" - As a kid I always remember enjoying getting compliments from the "big people"