How can I convince my bf that my son does not intentionally hurt his brother?

Question

I have a 6 year old son who does not belong to the father of my 2 youngest children. When my son plays with his baby brother (18 mos) he has accidentally hurt him. I.E. He was holding his hand running through the yard and they both fell. My younger son busted his mouth and nose and was bleeding. My boyfriend snapped at me and said he has been hurting him alot, which is entirely not true. He loves his baby brothers and would never hurt them on purpose. While I scolded my son for not being careful, he still heard what my bf said. I do not favor one child over the other, I love them all equally. He seems to think I just defend my oldest because he does not belong to my bf. Why would he think this? How can I convince him my son would NEVER hurt his brother maliciously?

Answer 1

just try and talk to him not scold him, and thing like that will happen. and btw it seems to me that ur boyfriend is a *****!

Answer 2

I have a six year old nephew, and accidents do happen. I do have a feeling that your boy was crushed when he heard that, and I feel sorry for him. Stick up for your son! It doesn't sound like your boy did it on purpose, and your boy friend needs to know that. Accidents do happen, and when your kids get older that will become more and more obvious. Tell your bf that you love all your kids the same and if he wants to be in your life he had better start doing the same!

Answer 3

Your bf needs to understand that he will not always be there to protect him from the world.  It's better he toughens up now than in school by strangers without your presence.  Tell him that this is how siblings play and to stop babying the little ones.  And tell him you are all in this together, neither one should be blaming the other over the children.

Answer 4

sounds like your new boyfriend is a sissy, in a major way.  kids get hurt all the time.  they look like they just served up a tour in iraq.  i bet he cries every time he gets a boo-boo.  tell him to grow up and get some balls.  truth is, he doesn't care about your older son.  loose that thoughtless heartless jerk.