How can I convince my mom to let me live in Amsterdam or France to go to College there.

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How can I convince my mom to let me live in Amsterdam or France to go to College there.

Answer 1

Amsterdam is such a great place.  I wish I was younger and then I would stay there for a few months.  Tell her about all of the history and culture Amsterdam has.  The Anne Frank House, the windmills, and all of the museums.  If she knows anything about the place, though, she might be more willing to go with France.  But, in Amsterdam everyone speaks English so you don't have to learn the language.  And the people are friendly and laid back.  You may have more luck convincing her to let you go for a semester, though, instead of a couple of years.  I'm sure there are all kinds of rules about how long you can stay in any of those countries.  You have to do it, I regret not doing something like that when I was younger.  Good luck!

Answer 2

Hi there!

Are you still trying to figure out ANY way - holidays - living/residing and now studying in Europe .....to convince your mom to let you go??? Boy, she must be a tough lady and good for her too.:-))

Shows she really cares for you!

As I said before, get your homework done : shortlist colleges and have all the details listed. Have concrete info to show her :

-name of colleges,

-costs of the studies (you won't get much from the French government or university seeing as how the French students have to fend for themselves and are barely managing.

Most of them have to take extra jobs - and not always good ones :-( -  and..... hardly any university has a campus where students can live except maybe for one in Paris. Some students are living with families in the countryside because they can't afford the rents near their university.

I can't speak for Amsterdam though.

-Costs of transport ? Although student's card exist that give you a reduction it still remains expensive. (atleast in France, don't remember about Amsterdam)

-costs of living (rent, amenities, food, books & other needed things for your studies)

-have you figured out yet what kind of studies you want to do and where you can follow them : what university has an excellent reputation in the field you are looking for?

- arguments on why she should let you go.

We don't know you and can't give pointers on this.

Do you want to travel?

Do you want to learn another language?

Do you want to get to know another culture?

Do you want to leave home and be free?

Do you want to enjoy life first and study only when you have the time?

-Start learning either Dutch or French before moving to either one of these countries because otherwise you certainly will NOT be able to follow their lectures and curriculum. This will also convince your mom that you want to go there for the good reasons and not simply for "recreation"purposes.

-Do you know thatuniversities in Europe have another approach to studies and that teaching here is done differently than in the USA.

-Show your mom how serious you are about this by doing your homework.

-Present a serious "file" and have valid arguments and counter-arguments ready.

-Why focus on Amsterdam? There are excellent universities all over The Netherlands.

Just for your info :

a college in the USA is a small private university wheras

a college in France is middle-school.

So that's not the word to choose to search for a university in Europe.

In France it is called "une université/ l'université" and in The Netherlands it is called "een universiteit/de universiteit". Those are already your 1st words in these languages...a good start to know the difference.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

get accepted first

Answer 4

I just can only support bla bla and positives contributions. Just think about your relationship to your parents, don't disturb it by just pushing your will, you may regret it on a later day.

Answer 5

Without meaning to sound rude, and having seen many of your questions already in this section, I would actually tend to agree with your mother on this basis

You are apparently not clear what you want - one minute you just want a holiday, next to emmigrate and work over here, and now to study.

On this basis I can imagine your mother's concern actually as it does not seem like you are doing much planning for your future other than to get to Amsterdam or France

Without sounding dictatorial - this is your future you are messing about with.  If your sole purpose of choosing a college course abroad is just to get to a country then the likelihood is that you will not graduate and this will end up being an expensive mistake

As I already told you in another question - start to make a plan for what you actually want to do (not just to get to Amsterdam/France!).  Do you really want to study?  If so do you have the entry qualifications? How are you going to fund this study - do you have lots of money lying about?  What course do you want to take (strengths & weaknesses and where your interests lie).   Then look at the courses available to you

If then, there is a course available in English for you to take in Amsterdam/France and you have the money to fund it, then consider that a bonus

In order to convince your mother, you need to show some direction, planning and show that you have throught about what you want and are taking mature decisions

Based on your questions it doesn't seem that way to me, and therefore I can imagine that your mother is duely concerned.  The problem does not seem to lie with your mother, but actually is in your own hands.

I have worked as a student advisor for foreign students and seen many drop out - they tended to be the ones which were only there for the travel aspect and whose heart was not in the college course = expensive mistake

As I said - this is not to be "nasty", but my opinion based on seeing/answering many of your questions to date.

Answer 6

just tell her it would be a good oppertunity and you that your young, and she should support your deisicon because you know whats best for you

Answer 7

Where do you live, now?

Why do you want to go to school in Amsterdam?  Is there a University there that has a particular program that you are interested in?  One that is superior to anything that you might find anyplace closer?

Seems to me, that most people want to go to Amsterdam for two things, and I'm really sure they are NOT going to convince your mom.

And even France, well, if you are from the US, you are talking about REALLY far away!!!!  (if you are from Britain, it's a whole different story - but then, if you were from Britain, you would have much more likely used "mum",)

Have you ever been away from home for more than a week?

Do you have any idea how difficult it is to move to a different country?

How do you intend to support yourself?  Are you independently wealthy?  Because you can't even get a part-time job as a foreign student in Europe.  So, you would haveto have enough money to live on and travel home on (at about $1500/ea. for round trip tickets + inflation) for five years.  Yes, a degree in Europe is FIVE years!

Have you thought about ANY of the logistics?

Are you fluent in Dutch AND French?

Listen, what you SHOULD do, is go to University in the US:  (wait - you wouldn't have used "college", either, if you were British).  and take your Junior year or a semester in Paris.  That way, you get the Europe experience, spend the summer travelling around, and maybe even have the chance to become fluent in French (take the full year if that's your goal - DEFINITELY not as good if you want to become fluent, to take only a semester...you're just not there in four months), without the committment which would very likely NOT be as good as you are thinking.  

Answer 8

You want to go on an exchange for a while? Much better to put forward this idea, rather than saying you want to go there forever and ever.

Either way, you would need to learn the local language in order to survive, particularly in France. However, if you're on a short-term exchange, it wouldn't be such a necessity.

I would suggest pushing the short-term exchange idea first, as part of your studies in your home country. From a practical standpoint, you might not actually like being there once you are there, so much better to go for the short run and see how you like it.