How can I cope with death?

Question

With my grandparent's deaths?

They aren't dead yet (my grandparents that are dead were dead before I was born), but my grandpa might have (I think?) prostate cancer again, and my grandmother on my dad's side forgets things a lot... and she moved in with my aunt and she isn't allowed to drive anymore...

I know I'm only fifteen, but I know if either of them pass away, my parents will hurt, and I don't know what I can do.

Any advice?

Answer 1

how to grieve is not something someone can tell you how to do.  it is not something you yourself can really predict. you cant plan how you or your family will feel.  I think it is best to try not to dwell on it so much. just enjoy them while they are here.

Answer 2

Right now, while they're still alive, try to spend as much time as possible with them.  Let them know how much you love and appreciate them.  When, and if, they do pass away, all you can do is just take it one day at a time.  Find comfort in your friends and other family members.  That's what I have done.

Answer 3

Since they are alive now, just show them you love them as much as possible, they may not even die that soon! Just remember, you're not the only one going thru with this, I've lost both my granddads and my dad, so just remember, you're not alone.

Answer 4

Ya know when we loose someone we love we do not have to loose everything they gave us in their lifetime of loving them and being close to them.

A lot of times people grieve and hold onto the hurt of the loss instead of letting the good of the person live within them. Look at it this way, they gave you so much in their lifetime, love, memories, laughter and wisdom. Enough of all of that to let live within you to make your life better for having had the chance to love them. Yes death leaves a void in your life but a lot of that void can be filled up with all they gave you in their lifetime of being a part of you. Make sense?

Use it for the good because there is good in all bad.

Answer 5

Know they've lived a long happy life.  Know they're going to a better place with no pain or hurt.  Know that they will always love you.  We are all born to die, it's what you do in between that makes the difference.  You just need to live a life like they did, and not worry about them dying.

Peace,

TT