How can I deal with my depression after losing my unborn child?

Question

I am not here to be judged or lectured on why I should have not done it. This is a really sensitive subject that I am asking anonymously for those who are kind enough to help me through this. Yes, I know I need to see a counselor but all I'm asking for is a word of advice on how to cope (if you have gone through it or not).

Thank you.

Answer 1

Now, I am sorry for your loss. I've suffered a miscarriage, and still think about it.  I do find that talking about the loss helps some, though no woman ever gets over losing an unborn child.  I've set this account to be open to receiving emails, if you ever need anyone to talk to, don't be afraid to send me one.

And for everyone else, they don't know why you'd chosen abortion (be it you have health problems, the OBGYN had told you your unborn child already had complications, you're living in an otherwise unsafe environment to birth a child, the child was the result of rape, and so on....), I'm still here to offer an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on.

http://www.openmommychat.com

Answer 2

Time...........

Answer 3

you didnt loose your child dear you killed it knowingly, and thats why your depressed its called GUILT

Answer 4

Well, you didn't "lose" your unborn child. You murder it.

IF you hadn't of, it would be alive either in you kicking around or in this world. I do not pity those who have abortions. You had choices leading up to conception and now.

Answer 5

Hi Nella,

Depression from cases like these are very unique. Someone can only truly help themselves by finding what it is on their own that they need to recover from such a experience.

Ive suffered from depression for many years, i've been writing about different coping strategies on my blog. I feel like it will help you.

http://downwithdepression.blogspot.com/

Answer 6

Should not done it? Hun, loosing a baby is no your fault. It just happens. have you tried counseling? Talk about it with family?

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before that person gave all the thumbs down, maybe you should freakin see that we did not know the addition comments until after we wrote our answer!!!

Answer 7

Im sure you did what you felt you had to do.That is a very hard decision to make and a very draining one at that. The biggest thing is time and other things you can do is reinterate why you had to do it so you can feel better about the decision you made . Im sure its not what you really wanted to do but you had to at this time and thats 1 of the reasons why it hurts. Do a candle lighting in the privacy of your home for closure and rememberance of your loss, sometimes it makes you feel better just to do a little something for your baby that has passed. I hope this helps and good luck to you, sorry for your loss.  

Answer 8

go to a support group or find one online. I am sure it was a difficult choice. One I would not have made, but  not here to judge you. hope you get the help you need.

Answer 9

Open an account on CafeMom.com... They have support goups... Myspace even has support groups from other moms who have lost their children...

I wish you all the best, and am sorry for your loss.

Answer 10

I'm sorry about that. But the best way to deal with it is time and to not worry about it so much. Live your life. More chances will come.