How can I deal with my family?

Question

So my parents and my whole family hate my boyfriend. We've been together for a year and I still don't understand why they don't approve pf him and our relationship. Earlier I moved and now I don't get to see him but we still talk constantly on the phone. Now my mother is saying that we shouldn't talk because we don't see each other anymore and she is basically trying to end the relationship. I don't know what to do about this and it hurts me because no one accepts him and I being together? I'm sick of crying and feeling like I can't help the situation. What can I do and how can I deal with this? I don't wanna close my family out of my life but that's what it's looking like....

Answer 1

You need to tell them to respect your privacy!  They don't have to like him so don't expect support from them. They do however need to lay off and let you and your boyfriend have your relationship no matter how difficult it may end up being.  If I were you I wouldn't talk to your family about your boyfriend at all.  If they won't support you, you don't need to indulge their curiosity.  You're old enough to have a boyfriend so you're old enough to cut the apron strings with your family, at least when it comes to your relationships.  Remember don't expect understanding from them because it looks like this won't happen, they may have seen you upset with him at one time and they took an immediate dislike, they probably only want whats best for you. Good luck!

Answer 2

you need to talk to your parents about why they dont like him.  its not an easy situation when there is conflict between family and a relationship.

be honest with them and show your family that they can trust you and have faith that you will make the right decisions, and if you make a mistake then you will need them as support and not be afraid to talk to them because all they will say is i told you so.

try your mum first, and do it after you've had a day together when you've had the chance to just talk about general things, maybe after a shopping day?

Answer 3

First off.............DON'T EVER CHOOSE A BOY OVER FAMILY...........FAMILY COMES FIRST! And i understand where u are coming from i've been there first see if u and ur boyfriend can hook up if not BOTH of u have to have faith in your relationship not just one of  u because then it won't work out. And it hurts girl i know it hurts but u gotta hang in there for as long as u can. Do wat u possibly can to save ur relationship WITHOUT cutting off ur family!

Answer 4

Reasons? What are their reasons for disliking him? Sometimes our family and friends can see things we can't because we are so blinded by love.  

Answer 5

Hiya there im am in the exact situation

i got with my boyfriend 2 years ago. the the 1st year was great and then my mum and dad sed i cant see him anymore because they thought he was a waste of space but there wrong because we are in love and it looks like you to are to which is really sweet. Me and my boyfriend have been secretly dating for the past year and in 10 months time when i leave school (((june 2009))) im leaving my family and moving in with him. Your mum is happy right now because shes moved to a new house new neighbours and she is with the love of her life (your dad) so why cant you b with your ? You wherent around to stop your mum and dad being together so why should you not be with the one you love. plz talk to her and say that he is the best thing that has happened to you, and say that your family will always b a part of you but so will your boyfriend but please try and except him because it will make me really happy.

I hope i have help

And i really hope things are sorted sweety

all the best

leanne x*x