How can I deal with my guy friend who likes me?

Question

I recently found out one of my guy friends likes me. I already told him that I don't see us becoming more then just friends. (I didn't want to lead him on. I'd rather be upfront and tell him that nothing will ever happen between us) He's now acting awkward. I act the same. I mean I still call him to hang out and stuff, I know that he's avoiding me. I feel like he doesn't want to be friends with me anymore. Why is this. I mean should I just give him space. It's not like I'm calling everyday either. I called Saturday, and today(tuesday). I don't want to lose my friend. We've been friends for 3 years.

Answer 1

Give him time to be hurt.. but still let him know that you really appreciate him as a friend. That's got to be terribly hard for him and he needs to let the wound heal before you can resume your friendship..  

Answer 2

Guys dont take the friend speech well at all. It takes alot of courage for them to tell you they like you as more than that so I can i understand why hes avoiding you. he must feel pretty dumb. Its close to impossible to have a friend thats a guy now a days without having this problem. I say you just keep trying to talk to him so he can know that its nothing personal and you really do wanna be his friends cause girls use this as an excuse.

Or he could be avoiding you because he doesnt want to fall for you even more. avoiding the person can be helpful at times. Just try talking to him and understanding him. he probably just needs some time before he can be your friend comfortably again.

Answer 3

this has happened 2 me twice. the 1st time i said i just want 2 b freinds she 4 me 2 burn in h**l. the 2nd time i told the other that she wasnt my type. that i just liked other people. them i lied 2 her and said maybe in the future. this gave her hope. things didnt get weird. and we dont even think about it at all this very

Answer 4

it sounds like he might feel embarrassed that he told you and you weren't interested. And yes, hurt too.  If the roles were reversed wouldn't you be?  

It took courage for him to tell you and know he might be risking losing your friendship too.

Instead of just inviting him places why not sit down together and have a talk. Let him tell you why he feels that there should be more between you than just friendship(really listen) and if you're sure there can't be then tell him (gently please) why.  I think you should also let him know you don't want to lose his friendship. How important it is to you.    

If you simply don't feel the more than a friend feelings for him now, why say it can never be. Unless there is something that is unchangeable that is making you say that. Otherwise people change and grow their whole lives.

Answer 5

If he has "feelings" for you then being around you is not going to be easy for him... He cannot just" turn them off." Some guys can handle it,some can't......

Answer 6

cud u tell me why u dont want to be more than friends? he probably is just sad that u rejected him

Answer 7

He could be feeling stupid. Maybe you need to talk one more time about this and how you don't want to lose his friendship.