How can I deal with the sadness of not being able to get pregnant?

Question

Me and my husband tried for two years to get pregnant and finally had a son, well now we want to have another and it is proving harder that the first time. Everyone around me is having a baby or even baby number two. How can I be happy for them when I am so sad and depressed?

Answer 1

hello i know just what you are feeling i had my tubes tied when i was 21 i have two boys 5 and 4 both starting school right now would be the perfect time for my and my new husband of 2 years to have our first child together but i made a decission 4 years ago that i am paying for now . so i am having to deal with all my friends and family getting preggos i am happy for them dont get me wrong i think i get more excited than they do but at the end of the day i just cry . i pray god will help guide me the right way. this  is the answer you have to pray and pray and then just just give it to god and once you give it to god just let it go you have to have faith and trust that he will do the right thing . it will happen.... good luck .

Answer 2

Well you've already conceived one child which is gr8, however sounds like your just not as fertile. Wow what's really funny is my ex-husband and I was trying for a child and it took two years. I remarried after september 11, 2001 and my husband now who serves the Military, we have been trying since then. Finally after 6 years of trying I got pregnant with child #2. Just don't give up, it will happen when the time is right. I felt the same way you did, I watched all these Military moms around me getting pregnant and yes it made me feel sad, but I never gave up. So just hang in there it will happen sooner or later.

Good Luck and best to you and yours :).

Answer 3

well if you have hard time to get pregnant your option is to adopt a child i know i know is not the same but you will be happy imagine that kid with no parents and having them for all his life....

Answer 4

You should stop worrying about "everyone" else...and be thankful that god blessed you with one baby.  

There are millions of women out there that can't even have one.  

You don't have to be happy for anyone...you do have to suck it up, and jump for joy that you have your son.  

Stop sulking, for your son's sake.  

He is a blessing and he deserves a happy mommy.

If you just absolutely must tempt fate...go to a fertility doctor, but whatever you do...get your head straightened out...your life is full of blessings and you're not seeing them.  You have a husband and a son ...that's alot more than alot of people have.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

just try to be happy with the one u have and maybe adopt a child hope this helped

Answer 6

just keep trying and it will happen or not go to a fertility treatment.  

Answer 7

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Love , Angela

Answer 8

some people are never blessed with a husband or a child.i know you would like to have another child,but sometimes we all get caught up in what we want.when we should concentrate on what we have.Keep trying be positive keep focus on the good in your life.If all else fails maybe adoption is an option.I know it may be hard but when it's time you might have another one just not on your time table.

Answer 9

Just put your legs up higher and have him completely on top of you. It's a proven fact that you can get pregnant easier that way.

Answer 10

You don't need a baby to be happy. Your sense of identity may be wrapped up in being a mother and having more children because others have more children. I wanted a child with my wife, she was unable to conceive (excepting one miscarriage.) I still grieve for that moment, but creating a life is not a solution for depression. Being happy for others is the ultimate release of ego and finding a light within ourselves. Do you miss the feeling of being pregnant because you could imagine the joy that would arrive with that life? Be happy for the people around you, find happiness in yourself, not through others.  

Answer 11

Get into the Dr now...get some fertility drugs to help you...

Answer 12

Adopt a kid or......get a family pet, like a cat or a dog, they really cheer you up! =D

Answer 13

adopt a child it will help allot of people.

Answer 14

focus on ur beautiful son that u were blessed with obviously concieving comes harder to u and ur husband so be thankful. ur son is a miracle if u really want another child consider adopting u would be helping a child in need giving them a home and love that is the best gift u could give

Answer 15

I know it is hard to watch other people have the baby that you so desire. You should be happy that you and your hubby were able to conceive a son, though. Some couples cannot even have one on their own. Are you on any fertility treatments?

Answer 16

Don't give up sweetie. I would go to the doctor and make sure that you are both fertile, then I would use an ovulation predictor kit. It seems like the harder we try the longer it takes to get pregnant. Try having s*x at least every other day from about a week after your period until a week before your next...it will happen. And look at it this way, maybe it's a blessing that it's taking a little longer. We are trying for number three. We have a 9 and 10 year old...both boys. We thought it would be great to have them so close together but I wouldn't recommend that to anyone...lol. It takes away alot of the attention from the older one when they are babies and now that they are young boy's all they do is fight and the competition between the two is horrible...lol. Keep your chin up, your time will come!

Answer 17

there are alot of options.

you can do infertility treatments and they are highly effective.

but you should be prepared if you have twins or triplets with them.

it's likely but not always the case.

you could also adopt.

i wish you good luck.

:)

Answer 18

Murder/Suicide.   :D

Answer 19

I Know how are you feeling its happening to me tooo, in my office there  are 3 pregnant friends, the cousin of my husband is pregnant.Dealing with the depression is really hard. I want a baby and we are trying really hard for this to happend. Every month that my period is late Buy a pregnancy test and every time is negative is so frustrating. I think the answer is giving God all this depression and the ansiety. i hope thsi month cames the +++++  

Answer 20

Just be happy that you have one beautiful child... That's more than some women o.O

Answer 21

I am so sorry about that but keep trying it will happen eventually. My cousin tried for a long time and was put on fertility pills and she got pregnant with twins. You could speak with a doctor and they might be able to help you. They definitely helped her. I think her problem was she just wasn't ovulating enough but when she got on the pills it made her ovulate more.